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Adolescence is the most difficult period in the lives of children and parents. Children begin to behave inappropriately, quarreling with loved ones, aggressively defending their position, which is often incorrect.
Educators and psychologists have identified 7 main causes of teenage aggression and 5 ways to solve the problem. Of course, they cannot be applied to everyone at once, since it is necessary to take into account the individuality of each type, but they can be used as templates with variations.
Drawing attention to yourself
The material stability of the family is the main task that people spend the most energy on. The more children grow, the wider their needs become, which parents want to realize. There is no time left to analyze the emotional and mental state of a teenager, and these are real prerequisites for the development of future conflict situations.
Rudeness, impudent behavior may appear because a teenager is trying to attract attention to himself. They believe that by rudeness they make it clear to adults that their life lacks love and affection. After all, many children in transition are embarrassed to talk about their problems. Aggression can manifest itself in two forms: expressed, when a child demonstratively slams doors, and hidden, which manifests itself in withdrawal, suicidal tendencies.
A way of self-affirmation
During adolescence, a child has not yet done anything remarkable or significant, but he or she wants to feel the most important and priceless. This age is characterized by the introduction of different behavioral models into life, which differ from family conditions and everyday life.
Copying adult behavior
The main and only correct model of behavior in life will be everything that happens within the walls of the home. Children who see cruelty to animals, rudeness and disrespect for people will behave in the same way. The process gets out of control and may end with the intervention of law enforcement agencies. All the blame lies with the parents, because they are the ones who are responsible for the child's mental state, which they must protect, avoiding injury.
Hormonal changes
There comes a certain period when boys turn into young men, and girls into girls. It is characterized by frequent mood swings, causeless tears, rudeness, awkwardness. After all, they still do not fully know how to control their emotions, how to behave with peers who have also become more mature. Their confusion often results in aggression. Parents should unobtrusively help overcome all its manifestations, surrounding the child with attention, remaining a friend and advisor. Joint sports activities, creative hobbies will help to overcome the difficult period. A calm tone and a good attitude will help to overcome the difficult period of personality formation.
Peculiarities of education
The younger generation will not adhere to the boundaries of what is permitted if there are extremes in the family, manifested in the absence of restrictions or, conversely, complete control. The child adopts the model of behavior and begins to manifest his essence in accordance with what he saw and perceived at home. If it was violence and cruelty, then he can direct all his anger at the weaker, but if everything was permitted, then he can start to say rude things to everyone, regardless of age and social status, insult and humiliate everyone.
The influence of television and the Internet
Modern programs are distinguished by scenes of cruelty and violence, films demonstrate murders, robberies, aggressive behavior. The virtual network allows you to receive any information and teenagers, using its multifunctionality, perceive everything as the right actions. There are many ways to process and subordinate the not yet fully formed psyche of the child, making it unrecognizable.
Finding the limits of permissibility
Experimentation is a fairly natural phenomenon in the transitional age. Children try to determine through trial and error what is right and what is wrong, what is possible and what is not. They do not want to be rude and aggressive, they are simply searching for themselves and try on different images, choosing the appropriate ones. Timely conversations lead to positive results: the teenager will resist violence, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes.
Ways to combat aggression
The child needs to be explained that the manifestation of various emotions in the form of rage and anger is inherent in every person. However, they should not be used constantly. The surge of negativity can be reduced by sports training, skydiving, and other extreme but useful activities.
You shouldn't engage in sparring with a teenager, as this will only make the situation worse. The scandal he is trying to start may end before it even begins if you ignore his screams or respond calmly and quietly enough.
You need to talk to your child as if they were an adult, seriously and thoroughly. Then the discussion will stop, because children in transition already consider themselves self-sufficient and experienced.
Before checking the phone or computer, you need to talk to your child about youth subcultures. Explain, if he doesn't know, that there are various sects and communities that attract people, clouding their minds. Trust will be restored, the teenager will understand that his parents are sincerely worried about him and want to protect him from bad things. If you take the phone without permission and view its contents, you will not be able to avoid conflict. These actions will be perceived as interference in personal life.
The issue of adolescent aggression during adolescence is complex. Parents need to be patient, understand the reasons and motives of their child's behavior. By remaining a friend to their child, you can overcome this difficult period.
