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So, you have established a relationship on the Internet or are in touch with a person you knew in real life. And suddenly the "black cat" of the love triangle runs between you. You will find out that your loved one has someone else. How to be, so as not to plunge into the abyss of despair and endless clarification of relationships?
Long-term long-distance relationships are difficult to maintain without emotional and physical stress. The one who is less stable and does not have the habit of consciously working on his feelings, desires, aspirations is the first to "give up" in a couple. Usually "consolation" or love triangle people who are prone to so-called displacement What is this?
Some emotional, sensitive people are distinguished by a hysterical character. This is a type of personality, which by its nature is closer to the structure of a child's character than an adult's. Moreover, a child who was delayed at the earliest stage of development associated with obtaining pleasure.
The psyche of a newborn child and infant is arranged in such a way that any traumatic experience is displaced in order to preserve the viability of the small organism. Many people who have received psychological trauma in early childhood retain the habit of repression for the rest of their lives. It is similar to the loss of a favorite toy, when the child quickly agrees to a replacement. He simply forgets about the loss. In the same way, your loved one, unable to survive the barrage of negative emotions, finds consolation. Perhaps, even a complete replacement for you - the one or the one who is far away.
Is it worth "fighting" for a loved one in such a situation? Decide for yourself. You can see how much you have in common, and whether there is a prospect of getting closer as soon as possible - in the physical sense. For the most part, long distance relationship torn because of the impossibility of satisfying basic human needs. I hope you understand that physical proximity is much preferable to the so-called "virtual sex".
Even if your loved one assures that it is "for the body", sooner or later the soul may open in the body. Or there will be another soul with a body - near and constantly. If your boyfriend or girlfriend turns out to be weaker than you in endurance, ask yourself the main question: "Why continue a relationship that cannot withstand even a short-term separation?".
Maybe it's really better to get someone closer? At the same time, you will be able to understand more deeply, forgive and let go of the one who hurt you with treason.
