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You can't help him forget about his previous love if he doesn't want to. Waiting for him to completely free himself from the past, you can lose years...
Before starting a new relationship, a person must deal with his past relationships, draw certain conclusions and get rid of feelings (and attachment) to his former partner. Unfortunately, some do the exact opposite. Naturally, this leads to catastrophic consequences.
Since a person still feels affection for a former partner, he is simply not able to form an emotional relationship with someone else. It is very important to know and be able to see the signs that tell that the loved one has not yet forgotten about his past relationship. This way you will be able to understand why your relationship with this person, no matter how wonderful it was at the beginning, still fell apart.
Here are 7 signs that the person with whom you are trying to build a relationship has not yet dealt with his past:
He does not hide anger and hatred towards a person from the past
When a person has really let go of everything that happened before, he does not feel negative emotions towards his former partner. To tell the truth, an emotionally stable and adequate person will calmly accept that her former partner is now happy and doing well.
Does your loved one stress day after day that they were unhappy in a previous relationship? This may be a sign that he is fixated on the past.
He takes you to the same places he went with his previous girlfriend
It happens that a person starts a new relationship only to forget about the pain caused to him in past relationships. A person does not always consciously make this decision.
He seeks to fill the void that was created after parting. It gets to the point that he arranges dates in the same places where he went with his ex.
Does your chosen one behave in a similar way? Does he call you the same affectionate name he used to call the previous girlfriend? Do you spend your free time doing the same hobbies he did with his ex? If so, this person is probably using you to forget the past and heal from a previous relationship.
He is still trying to be friends with his ex
Does the person you are dating have children from a previous marriage? Is he forced to meet his ex for work? If not, then your significant other simply has no reason to be friends with the one with whom he once shared love.
When a couple's relationship ends, both need time to figure themselves out and forget about each other. Even if these people become friends, it will happen months (or even years) after the breakup. This will happen when both build a new, strong relationship.
If a person has not forgotten his former partner, he will seek to maintain friendly relations with him. The person secretly hopes to return the past.
You find his ex's things in your house
In the worst case, it could mean that your lover is secretly seeing an ex. And most likely, your partner simply does not want to return any things belonging to a person from his past.
If he returns these things, then the reason for meetings will disappear. The thought that he will not be able to see his ex hurts him.
Your relationship is based on passion and physical attraction. You don't feel an emotional connection
This is a clear sign that your relationship means nothing to him. Is the person you are dating not interested in communicating and getting to know you better? If so, then you are simply being used.
He follows his ex on social networks
A lover claims that he no longer communicates with his ex, but constantly visits her page in a social network? This may be a sign that a person has not yet forgotten his former love.
He constantly compares you to your ex
Does he allow himself to say that his previous partner is better than you in this or that issue? The person is simply expressing his disrespect for you. And this is a reason to think about parting. Be wary of enthusiastic comments about how much better you are than his ex-girlfriend.
In both cases, the partner does not want to forget the past love and constantly remembers it. This is wrong, because all his attention should be directed exclusively to you and to the new relationship.
You are not at all obliged to help a person heal wounds. You can't help him forget his past love if he doesn't want to. The desire to move forward depends only on him. Waiting for your chosen one to completely free himself from the past, you can waste years. Why do you need a relationship in which you are only a way to distract yourself from the pain of a past love?
