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When we're with someone we like, our behavior can be significantly different from our usual. It's no wonder, because our hearts beat faster, our palms get sweaty, and the most obvious things fly out of our heads. Sometimes it's just a side effect of falling in love, and sometimes the reason may be something else entirely.
For many centuries, women were set certain requirements and norms of behavior, without which it was difficult to find a life partner. Now times have changed, but subconsciously a woman compares herself with the classical idea of society about what an ideal girl, wife, mother should be. With any discrepancy, anxiety and self-doubt appear inside.
Reasons why a woman gets nervous when talking to a man
Unstable self-esteem
When a girl does not have a clear positive attitude towards herself, she projects her doubts onto a young man. A man treats a woman the way she allows him to. If she does not respect herself, then you should not expect anything else from him.
Past negative experiences with the opposite sex
There is such a thing as “psychological trauma.” If a woman has been in a relationship where she has suffered a lot, the negative emotions may not have been fully digested. Because of this, romantic relationships become associated with negativity and starting something new can be scary.
Insufficiently close family relationships
If a girl has never seen trusting relationships between relatives in her family, it will be difficult for her to believe that things will be different for her. Especially important are relationships with her father, understanding her value in his life.
Attitude towards oneself
Sometimes a girl doesn’t know her strengths and weaknesses and therefore is constantly waiting for an assessment from the outside. If a woman doesn’t consider herself valuable from the start, simply because she is who she is, she will “earn” value in the eyes of others. Praise me, appreciate me, make me important — these messages will hide behind nervousness.
How to start feeling more confident
Study yourself
Try to identify your strengths, learn to accept your weaknesses. You need to understand your worth.
Write down everything related to the image of the ideal man and his attitude towards you.
This will help you understand your needs, principles, and values.
Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
This is very important. The way you treat yourself shows how you can and should be communicated with.
Separate your communication with your family (and your father in particular) from the rest of the world
Your boyfriend is not your dad. Your relationship with your new husband will be the way you want it to be, regardless of the relationship between your relatives. Remember, the boyfriend is your choice.
Start loving yourself.
Confidence comes when we love ourselves. Which girl would you fall in love with? The one who wears silk dresses and laughs loudly when she feels like it? Or the one who loves to look at the stars and wears bulky sweaters? Fall in love with yourself to become more confident. And you won't have to be nervous when talking to men.
