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Experiencing betrayal not only destroys trust in others, but also faith in yourself. It's time to change that!
Stop blaming yourself.
Those who have survived betrayal often punish themselves even more - denying themselves love and words of comfort. You did not deserve what happened to you. You should not trample yourself even more, condemning and scolding for gullibility, naivety or poor choices. The fact that you have survived betrayal is not your fault. Self-criticism will not help you - it is better to work on restoring self-esteem.
Don't hold grudges.
When we are treated unfairly, anger is seen as a normal and healthy response. But if your anger doesn't go away, festering for months or even years, it can interfere with your ability to move forward in life, causing anxiety and depression.
Consider the option of forgiveness before the resentment poisons you.
It is difficult to forgive someone who has betrayed you, especially if the situation is associated with violence. But psychologists have proven that recovery from psychological trauma inflicted by loved ones (parents or husband) is more successful if you freely, without coercion, decided to forgive the aggressor. This does not mean that you should refuse to get even, but forgiveness reduces the pain.
Your vulnerability does not define your personality.
When you are faced with betrayal, you risk, without even realizing it, slipping into negative thoughts about how bad, weak, or worthless you are. Remember that you are a worthy person, no matter how much pain you have had to endure or what other people think of you. You have value. You are more than your resentment and pain.
Look at the rainbow through tears
Sometimes we are so overcome with grief and anger that life seems to consist of only tears and insults. You think that your suffering will never end, but it is not so. Learn from the past. Any pain passes. No one cries forever. Work on self-esteem, let go of feelings of anger and find strength in forgiveness. Only in this way will you cope with the consequences of betrayal. Restore your hope!
