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Traditionally, it is believed that the proposal of the hand and the heart should be made by a man. But does a woman always have to wait patiently for a marriage proposal? Let's figure out when a woman can make an offer and how to approach this issue.
Many women are still thinking: should I raise the question of marriage myself? In the modern world, women have become more independent and proactive, and are not against taking the decision of this delicate issue into their own hands. Will such an onslaught push the man away, or, on the contrary, is it high time to decide on a frank conversation in order to more clearly understand the future of the relationship?
In many ways, the solution to the issue of marriage depends on the stage at which this or that couple is.
Relationship stages
The relationship between a man and a woman develops according to approximately the same scenario.
Candy-bouquet period. This stage is the beginning of a relationship, the first dates of a young couple. A man and a woman are just getting to know each other and have not yet made any conclusions about the seriousness of the relationship and marriage. At this stage, the relationship either ends, often before it has started, or moves into a more serious stage.
Confession of love. Words of love can be heard both at the beginning of a relationship and after a longer time. A lot depends on the character of your husband and how close your relationship is. But in any case, confession of love is a very responsible step, which indicates the serious intentions of the partner. By the way, a woman can be the first to say the cherished words: "I love you", especially if the partner is very shy.
Shared residence. Many couples consider cohabitation and cohabitation to be a mandatory condition before marriage. Unlike dating, this way you can get to know your partner much better and faster, understand whether the couple will be comfortable in marriage.
An offer to live together can be considered a kind of stage that precedes marriage. In this regard, many women try to bring this stage closer in various ways, actively encouraging their husbands to cohabit before marriage. This position should be respected, no one wants to make a mistake in choosing a partner for life, but a woman should not delay cohabitation without a stamp in her passport. Psychologists claim that a year of living together is quite enough to draw the necessary conclusions.
In what cases should you take the initiative into your own hands?
The man is clearly procrastinating with the offer. It is difficult to name specific terms when a man should make an offer. Every woman knows for herself when she is no longer ready to wait. If we talk about men, some of them are ready to make an offer in a month, and for many, 5-10 years will not be enough to decide.
The man is shy and indecisive by nature. You know your husband and his character better than anyone else. If your husband is quite passive, and you are the one who makes the decisions in your couple, then you should think about solving the marriage issue. Otherwise, you can wait for the offer.
The man offers to have a child / you will find out about the pregnancy. In such a situation, it is very important to discuss the issue of your status, because the child must have a father, and you have the status of a legal wife.
How to properly propose to a man
A frank conversation. Simply put, ask directly: "When will you marry me?". This kind of question takes some courage, but it's the easiest way to know how serious your boyfriend is and to leave empty expectations.
A method with a "trick". If you are a shy person and do not want to ask questions about marriage, then this method is for you. For example, you have been living together for a long time and are waiting for an offer, your husband is used to dinner waiting for him in the evening, the house is clean, his shirts are ironed, and you devote all your free time only to him. Stop being a "wife without a ring" for your husband for a while. Do not wait for him with dinner, but dedicate another evening to your girlfriends, going to some restaurant.
After returning home, calmly answer the questions that you are a free girl, unmarried and go out with your friends whenever you want. But if she were married, it would be a different conversation! Despite the lack of a direct question "in the forehead", this method is quite aggressive and can upset your partner a lot, but with a high probability he will think about legalizing your relationship.
Summing up, we can say that there are situations when a woman herself should take the initiative in the matter of marriage. This issue should be discussed at least in order to stop worrying about it and understand how serious your relationship is.
