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Have you ever noticed that at the beginning of a relationship, everything is dizzying, your heart jumps out of your chest with happiness, and then...? The thing is that at the stage of falling in love, the brain is attacked by hormones - dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, that is, complete euphoria.
But here's the thing to remember: love is not just about romance. So if there's a feeling of discomfort in a relationship, but you're ignoring it, it's time to stop and think: is this really love, or is it something else entirely?
When is it time to take off the rose-colored glasses?
Indeed, there are things that cannot be justified, even if you are very much in love. Because true feelings do not humiliate or devalue. So, what should you pay attention to?
- You are always to blame.
Keep in mind that if any problem – from your partner's bad mood to relationship problems – automatically becomes your fault, it's a warning sign.
- You are ignored or punished with silence
Silence in response to questions, unwillingness to talk after an argument, disappearing without explanation – all this is emotional manipulation.
- Your feelings are ridiculed or devalued
Phrases like: “You’re exaggerating,” “Oh, you’re making up a problem,” “Who cares?” are not jokes, they are signs of indifference.
- You feel lonely in your relationship.
If instead of a sense of partnership you are accompanied by loneliness, if you do not receive support in difficult moments, it means that you are not being properly cared for.
- You are controlled and restricted.
Banning people from meeting friends, controlling social media, and questioning them about their every move is not a manifestation of care, but a form of manipulation.
- Your success doesn't please your partner.
When instead of support you hear: “So what’s the big deal?”, “You’re just lucky,” “It’s all not serious,” – oh, this is a reason to think, because a person who loves you is happy about your victories.
Why is it important not to ignore these signals?
Finally, we should note that abusive relationships do not start immediately. First, it is a slight dissatisfaction, then manipulation, and then deep emotional trauma. The longer you turn a blind eye to the problem, the harder it is to get out of it.
