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Many women have experienced a man appearing and then immediately disappearing for some unknown reason. Psychologists will tell you about the three most common patterns of behavior that scare men away.
Hints and manipulations
This is very annoying for men, of absolutely any age or type of character. For example, a woman wants to be with her man, but he is going to go to the gym with friends or to relax. A woman who understands everything will say: “Darling, I would like to spend this evening with you. Maybe you will stay with me today or at least come back earlier?”. You need a reason and you need a proposal to solve the problem.
The wrong option would be: "Your friends are more important to you than me." Here, the reproach is combined with a fact. Or rather, a false fact: the woman herself made this conclusion, which gives the man every right to be offended by, and his partner will only lose from any outcome of events.
Strengthening relationships only happens when we agree with each other on something. That is why it is important not to reproach and come up with conclusions, but to agree: “Dear, I know that you need to go relax. Come on, come home quickly, I will wait for you.” This option is even better than the first. Here the woman agrees with the man and demonstrates understanding.
You don't need to communicate by manipulating: "you don't love me," "work is more important than me," and so on. If you constantly use forbidden tricks, your man will stop arguing and really change his priorities.
Sculptor Girl
Women love to change men, trying to remake them for themselves and make them the most convenient. For example, if a woman is higher in status than a man, she can in every way persuade him to earn more, look better. Dissatisfaction with a man makes women criticize their companions, reproach them for something, although it is much easier to change this unsuitable partner without wasting your time in the first place.
Another option. “Look at Pashka — he’s a man!” Painful comparisons begin, which are unlikely to motivate a man to change, but he may well respond in kind.
Many women wonder why their husbands start cheating instead of changing for the better, as they are asked to do. The thing is that men see that their significant other is not in love with them, but with an imaginary ideal. They experience this extremely painfully.
A man is a formed personality, so it will not work to change him. There is no need to deceive yourself and your partner. If the claims grow and multiply at the dawn of a relationship, it is better not to start anything at all, but to continue the search for a man.
Total control
There are women who are used to being the boss in the house, the boss in love, and in everything. They love to tell men what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. They need an obedient companion who will not contradict them.
This is the mother's behavior, and the man is divorcing his mother and does not want to return under her wing. Formed people want to be strong and independent, to receive compliments, not remarks. They do not want to be under control in partnerships. Control is expressed not only in orders, when to come, when to leave and what to do. It is also jealousy, which always destroys relationships. At first, the partner tolerates all this, and then patience comes to an end.
It is much better when a woman is on the same level as a man. There is nothing wrong with being equal in love. Only such a relationship can last as long as the lovers want.
These three patterns of behavior do not seem repulsive to most women, because in most cases they want to do the best they can, but it just doesn't work out that way. Sometimes it's very useful to stop and look at the relationship from the outside.
