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It is believed that the birth of a child changes the life of a young mother to a greater extent, but the father, especially if it is the first child, also has a hard time: despite the fact that his role is more likely to be to provide support, it is the father who bears the main responsibility for providing for the family. And yet, it is difficult for a man to admit his fears and concerns. We decided to help young mothers and collect the main points that men prefer not to voice.
The sense of responsibility often becomes hypertrophied
If previously a man was responsible for his significant other, then with the advent of a baby, or even several, the load, including psychological, increases several times: will he be able to provide for his family? Will he be able to take care of the baby? How will the appearance of a child affect the relationship with the baby's mother? A man needs time to get used to the new role and get away from stress, even if it is caused by a pleasant event.
Expenses may exceed income
For a man, the feeling of freedom also lies in the ability to spend a certain amount on himself, thus relieving tension. With the advent of a child, spontaneous shopping and relaxation with friends usually decrease, because the child requires not only a lot of attention, but also good care, for which you need to earn money, and a young mother often does not feel like thinking about work, especially in the first months after giving birth. The financial support of the family is completely transferred to the man, from which he may feel slight discomfort, but almost never shows it.
A man may feel a little jealous of the child.
A child will give the family new experiences, most often pleasant ones, but not every man can quickly get used to the idea that now there is someone else between him and his significant other. He understands perfectly well that this little person is his own child, but on a subconscious level it is difficult for him to suppress outbursts of jealousy, which he will restrain with all his might. That is why you can so often hear recommendations from psychologists for young mothers - do not go headlong into caring for the child, because you also have a husband who also needs the attention of his beloved woman.
A man gets tired no less
Very often, family quarrels arise from a woman's dissatisfaction with the fact that her husband, in her opinion, "chills out" at work, while she spins "like a squirrel in a wheel." As we have already said, it is also not easy for a man to accept a new role. In addition, if he does not refuse to help you after he returns from work, accusations of indifference and lack of interest in the baby are groundless. Let him not spend as much time with the child as you do, but he is also busy working for the benefit of the family. Be more lenient.
