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There is a common saying: the same people get married. Surely in your environment there are acquaintances who are not married for the first time, as well as those who are actively looking for a life partner, but are still not there. What is it: fate or mistakes in behavior? We discussed this topic together with psychologists.
Settings in your head
Let's figure out why a woman wants to get married, but can't. We all live based on past experience. In a past life, a girl may well have been forbidden to love. Why? Because there was a painful experience, after which the woman said to herself: "I will never let this happen again, I don't want it to hurt like that! Never again!" And that's it, the conditional seal has been set. With this internal attitude, not always conscious, a woman lives and is afraid of relationships. Of course, it is necessary and possible to correct these deep-seated beliefs.
The second moment is when a woman wants a relationship, but unconsciously, for various reasons, is afraid of losing a part of herself — and walks away from it. Psychologists always suggest that clients make a list, for example, of thirty points, in which they need to list what my loneliness gives me, what I will lose by entering into a relationship. Many write the same word: freedom. Women are afraid of losing their freedom in a relationship, they are afraid that they will have to adapt, give up something — and in fact they do not want this. Plus conviction. From the series: there is no relationship, which means there will be no betrayal, you will not have to suffer, like then. That is, every single woman has a hidden benefit, why she is not in a relationship now. And here there is only one task: to remove negative attitudes and work through fears.
Another option: family history. This is a pattern of behavior that is repeated along the female line in the family. When a grandmother gave birth to a daughter and divorced early, raising her all her life alone. Then the daughter grew up. She got married, gave birth, her marriage also ended in divorce - all the women in the family cannot build a strong family, they pass on the usual scenario to each other. In other words, there is a ban on happiness. So you need to work with this family pattern.
Increase your own value
An important point: sometimes women are not ready to take responsibility. But any relationship involves this. That is, there are many women around who believe that a man owes them by definition. They only want to take, but give them nothing themselves, they do not correspond to the man they claim. And men, believe me, feel when they only want to use them. Now, a lot of successful men, arranging their personal lives with the help of intermediaries, conditional matchmakers, immediately say: introduce me to a successful woman who works and earns herself. And not to one who will extract resources. It is worth remembering that a woman should respect her husband - this is what the Bible says. Then he will try for her, grow and conquer worlds, become more successful. Let us clarify: we are now talking about worthy men, and not about those that women drag on themselves, thinking: "let him be ugly, but mine."
In general, we want to wish all women to increase their value. In a relationship, both partners should develop. You don’t need to look for a man to solve your problems and sit on his neck. You don’t need to drag an alcoholic or drug addict on yourself, hoping that the person will suddenly change. Develop, work on yourself — become a star (for yourself, in your own eyes), and men will reach for you.
