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Growing up, many women become more difficult to lift, less spontaneous and cheerful due to the burden of past experiences. And, not noticing it themselves or simply not wanting to admit it to themselves, they live for years without understanding what exactly destroys their relationship and why they repeatedly fail on the love front.
So, what bad habits appear with age and poison your communication with your husband?
Extracting emotions, promises, guarantees, material investments from a man
For this, both the most subtle and sophisticated methods, and more clumsy and rough ones can be used. "You have to love your wife like a neighbor, right? Feels like a mile away, right? She is always so happy. And her bouquets are always fresh on Instagram... ". Or heavy artillery: "Either we get married or I leave."
Pressure on feelings of guilt
"Of course, go fishing with your friends. It's more fun with them. It's not like I'm at home," "Go, I still seem to be getting sick, and my heart is pounding." After that, you can sit in a corner and cry quietly. If the man starts to convince, you can cry even louder. The feeling of guilt in this case will drive the man crazy.
Hyper control
A woman tries to keep abreast of her husband's communication: every correspondence and every conversation with friends, colleagues and car service employees. His logins and passwords have been known for a long time and are used without shame, because close people should not have secrets from each other.
The origin of jealousy
Is the man in no hurry to propose? Why not play on his feelings and make him jealous? You can tell him that your ex suddenly appeared or come home from work drunk and with a bouquet of flowers. And you can buy yourself flowers and say that they are from a secret admirer.
Laziness and unwillingness to develop
Joint life, everyday life, maternity leave, eternal cares take a lot of energy and time. But very often women themselves live in the same way, not wanting to change anything and move forward. They do what they are used to, out of inertia, agree to the role of domestic service in order not to experience career stress, and then complain that there is no joy, happiness and achievements in life at all. It is difficult to be happy, successful and interesting to your husband without taking any actions.
Poor personal boundaries and emotional swings
A woman is first ready to bend under her husband, then rebels, then loves again and apologizes for her behavior. It exhausts both her and her husband. A woman with poor boundaries often feels victimized, but blames it on her husband. She does not understand when and where to say a calm and polite "no" or a warm "yes". Therefore, one has to deceive and curse, and then hate and become hysterical from the accumulated aggression. Such behavior is a clear manifestation of unformed personal boundaries.
