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This is not the end. You understand it, he understands it. But for some reason, after announcing a break in relations, an extremely unpleasant residue remains. Is it possible to take a time-out so that no one suffers? Hardly. But it is quite possible to facilitate this procedure. How to take a break in a relationship correctly.
Figure out why you need a break
Bad option: you decided to take a break in the relationship only to postpone the final breakup and spare your partner's feelings. Good: you really need time to figure yourself out. This is where you need to ask yourself the main question: why do you need a break? What is the problem that you plan to take a break from? Is it solvable? Based on the answers, make a decision: a break or still parting.
Discuss this in person
First, such conversations should not be conducted over the phone or in writing simply out of respect and politeness. Your partner deserves to hear everything from you in person. Second, a face-to-face conversation allows you to reduce misunderstandings to a minimum. Of course, mistakes always happen, but when you meet in person, at least you see the reaction to what you said, which will help you choose the right words.
Break conditions
Each person has their own, unique ideas about relationships: what is acceptable for one person may turn into a nightmare for another. Therefore, the terms of a break in a relationship need to be discussed and established as clearly as possible. The first thing to do is to gently but clearly explain what exactly pushed you to this decision. The second is whether you will continue to maintain contact (by phone, on social networks, etc.). And the third, perhaps most importantly, is whether the break in your relationship involves dating and intimacy with other people. Make sure that the terms of the break are formulated clearly and unambiguously, and also satisfy both parties.
Use this time for self-discovery
Loneliness can be extremely instructive. At the very least, it will make you understand: you are together because this person is really dear to you, or simply because of the fear of being left without a partner. Understanding the difference between these two situations will allow you to better understand yourself and your relationships. Spend your time apart with benefit, and then think carefully about whether you are as good together as apart.
End of break = end of relationship
A question that causes heated debate and discussion. Whether these concepts can be equated will have to be decided only by you. After the break, meet with your partner again, listen to his thoughts on your relationship, express yours, and only then make a decision. Together. Even if you leave the meeting separately.
