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Many couples, without wanting to, deprive their relationships of a future. Often the reason for this is unjustified expectations and misconceptions about what “true love” is.
Here are the most common myths that prevent you from being happy:
There is only one true love.
In reality, you can deeply and sincerely love different people in different ways at different stages of life. Sometimes your paths diverge, and then fate brings you back together. The one who previously seemed unnecessary suddenly becomes "the one."
It is important to meet your "half"
Passion flares up at the beginning of the novel, but inevitably fades away within six months, even if the physical attraction is very strong.
But if you have common interests and dreams, you have come to an agreement about finances, you are physically attractive to each other, you like your partner's relatives and friends, there is an excellent chance of concluding a strong marriage.
Quarrels are natural and even beneficial for relationships.
While no marriage is without conflict, disagreements come in many forms. To be beneficial, they must be resolved constructively, otherwise your relationship is doomed.
Conflicts are unproductive if they consist of endless repetitions of old arguments. They are accompanied by feelings of guilt, contempt, and devaluing the partner, and sometimes threats aimed at seizing power in the relationship.
Disagreements strengthen relationships when both partners are willing to listen, understand, and accept each other's views.
Physical attraction is essential for a happy marriage
Although physical attraction strengthens any relationship, it is not a necessary condition for its continuation.
The way a person looks at life, their ability to cope with difficulties, and their willingness to make commitments are the best indicators of how long your love will last.
Loss of physical attraction is rarely the real reason for infidelity. More often than not, it is boredom, a habit of ignoring each other, financial problems, high expectations, unpleasant surprises, and interference from relatives. These are the circumstances that lead one spouse to start looking for love on the side.
Many couples remain in love when they can no longer maintain physical passion due to age, but show tenderness and affection for each other.
Forgive and forget is the best way to stay together
A partner who asks you to just let go of old resentments is actually suggesting that you move on without solving the problem. Learn from your mistakes. Let the pain of a broken heart help you figure out what caused the problems and how to avoid them in the future.
Change the rule of “forgive and forget” to “remember and let go.” You can “let go” of resentment only if your partner is sincerely repentant.
Don't go to bed without making peace.
This rule is true for difficult times when you are not sure if you will get the opportunity to reconcile later. That is why it is better to solve all problems immediately.
But in reality, many resentments are a direct repetition or echo of unresolved issues in the past. You need time to cool down, think things through, and decide what you really want to get out of it.
"Become what I want!"
Many people want to be loved for who they are, but at the same time try to change their partner. Such metamorphoses happen extremely rarely - people do not change. Do not make your partner feel guilty when difficulties arise that were not caused by him.
Love conquers all.
What sounds promising for one person is not at all suitable for another. Love has so many facets that each couple is looking for their own definition of this concept. For some it is tenderness, for others respect, for others love cannot exist without passion, for others they must be convinced of the absolute devotion of their partner. For some, love is impossible without commitment, and for others the ability to forgive is more important. For others, loyalty is the main sign that love exists.
Eternal love is a feeling that makes you happy!
