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What are the signs that you shouldn't get married? How to understand whether you really love a person and want to become his wife, or whether you are simply tired of loneliness and constant questions: "When will you get married?" We will tell you how to become the mistress of your life and not listen to other people's advice.
So, all your friends are already married and have at least two kids, and all your relatives start looking at you askance, with the same silent question hidden in their eyes: what's wrong with you? But, believe me, that's how it is with you, you're just very serious about the topic of marriage and in your heart you really want it to happen once and for all, and such an approach requires careful selection.
So in what cases should you still not get married, even if you really want to?
You sense a betrayal.
He is so caring, he courtes well, calls, writes messages and is always ready to help at the first call… Until some time. And you know in your heart that this time will pass before the clinking of glasses at your wedding has time to disappear. How to recognize such “charming suitors” and not fall into their traps?
First of all, if you feel that something is wrong, then something is definitely wrong. If there are doubts, it’s definitely “no”. Always ready to help? But not when he is really needed! And at the first more or less serious problem, he finds a thousand reasons why he cannot help, instead of finding just one that will definitely work. And most importantly, watch his communication with his mother, there will probably be more than one sign of how he will treat you.
Are you tired of the pressure?
Your married friend invited you for a cup of coffee, and you couldn't avoid meeting up. So, you knew how this conversation would end. After you told her how great you are (and a man is not necessary to feel happy) and how you look better than her (this is purely objective), she still starts complaining about the topic, but when you find the same one for yourself, and you wonder (to yourself, of course) why all conversations automatically boil down to the topic of men, because there is so much interesting stuff in the world! You are ready to tolerate your mother's periodic sighs - she has one goal: she wants her soul to calm down, because she has settled the child. And why does your friend insist on getting married? Don't give in to pressure from your closest circle. In general, your circle is built on interests. If you have other hobbies now, there is nothing wrong with that - dilute your circle of friends with new people.
Your connection is only physical.
And then night falls on the city, and you suddenly feel lonely with this cold glass of wine. You carefreely send a message: “How are you?” as a password from the ephemeral feeling of closeness and solitude. The next moment you are already receiving this endless pleasure… No one has brought you as much pleasure as this “man for an hour” of yours. But the sun rises, and you barely look at each other, and there is no question of starting some kind of intimate conversation. How many times have you convinced yourself that there is absolutely nothing to talk about with him… You and your girlfriend can discuss the topics of clothes and famous people.
Physical closeness, unfortunately, does not always mean emotional closeness... If you are not at all interested in each other during the day, then you definitely should not associate your life with this person, no matter how wonderful he or she is in bed. The foundation of a harmonious family life is the ability to listen and hear each other. If you have nothing to talk about, then there will be nothing to want to listen to.
You only like abundance in it.
And so you meet what seems to be “that perfect” man and are willing to overlook some of his flaws, because overall he can provide you with the level of comfort and security that every woman dreams of. But imagine that he went bankrupt or became very seriously ill. Would you be able to stay with him?
If you are ready to pack your bags and run at the first more or less strong wind because you don't need it without your "wealth," then nothing good will come of it.
You started to doubt that you were worthy of more.
“Maybe I want too much?” — a treacherous voice creeps in when you once again end a relationship with someone. But you know why the relationship didn’t work out! It’s because you tried to close your eyes at some points and decided to step down from your pedestal so as not to seem too demanding! And here’s the result. If you decided that you deserve better, then you are. If there is such a you, then there is such a he. And it’s important not to get lost in your doubts, but to continue to confidently look into the future and enjoy your life right now.
