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Finding yourself in a situation where two close people are breaking your heart, it becomes unclear what to do next. You need to decide who to try to win back, and with whom to completely end the relationship.
What's wrong with me?
This is a question that absolutely every woman asks herself when she learns about her husband's betrayal. Negative thoughts creep in. Self-esteem plummets. Trust is undermined not only in men, but also in close friends. It seems that everyone around can easily cheat.
The reason why a man goes to a mistress can concern both the woman and the generally cracked relationship with the man. But the search for pleasure on the side depends not only on a hopeless relationship, but also on the man's pathological attraction to new sensations outside the family. Therefore, to find out the reasons and eliminate such problems, it is necessary to consult a psychologist.
Instructions for women
Betrayal by anyone is not the end of the world. It's just the next stage of life that needs to be considered with a cool head. You can either accept this fact or go the English way. In any case, it's important to assess the situation, weigh the pros and cons, and be prepared to accept the consequences of your decision.
Focus on yourself
It is important to understand what a woman specifically feels. A man, faced with the choice of cheating on his girlfriend or remaining faithful, chose a mistress. Then a woman is given at least two options: to keep the family or divorce. Whatever decision she makes, it cannot be changed. It is very easy to drive yourself into a corner and find yourself in a situation where a man and a girlfriend are constantly together, not even in real life, but only in the head of the injured party.
Oddly enough, feelings of loneliness and deception may not arise. This happens when, even before the betrayal, feelings cooled and interest in the partner disappeared. In this case, it was mutual.
What to do after a breakup?
If a man goes to his mistress, you should not stop him. His behavior is based on a love of prohibition and mystery. Therefore, when everything is stable and clear in marriage, he becomes uninteresting. This is psychology that only he can change. Other people, including his wife, will not influence him. The first days after the breakup are better spent on the following:
- Distance yourself as much as possible from your ex-partner and girlfriend.
- It's pointless to resist a bad mood, but it's also not necessary to fall into panic and apathy.
The most difficult and stressful period of a breakup is the first 2 weeks. And the feeling of betrayal will gradually disappear over a month and a half. The most important thing after a breakup is to restore your own strength and self-confidence. You will have to learn to follow your interests, love yourself, and increase your own significance. To do this, you need to:
- Remember your hobby;
- Enlist the support of loved ones;
- Learn something new. It is advisable to do something that fully holds your attention and does not allow negative thoughts to take over.
The decision to stay in a harmful relationship or start a new harmonious family depends on the self-esteem of the woman herself. Things with a friend are different. What is considered more insidious: betrayal by a husband or a friend? Each woman chooses for herself. Most likely, the choice depends on the duration and depth of the relationship with both parties. But the method of resolving the conflict does not change from this.
