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30 minutes. Usually, that's how long it takes a man to understand whether a woman is right for him. But sometimes a couple of minutes is enough. What qualities can a man use to elevate her to the rank of his personal standard in the first seconds of meeting her?
Dressed = smart
These two words were not put together by us, but by scientists from the University of Toronto. They conducted an experiment in which they assessed the effect of revealing clothing on women's intelligence. Girls in tight, short, transparent outfits performed worse on IQ tests than when they were wearing comfortable clothes.
“They focus on their appearance, which distracts cognitive resources from the task at hand, which interferes with its completion,” the study says.
So the male theory that a woman in revealing clothes is frivolous has been scientifically proven. This, of course, does not mean that you should show up to a date in your father's shirt. But don't let a tight dress stifle your intelligence.
Without your suitcase, no problems
Psychologists believe that love is a search for completeness, that is, we subconsciously look for a person who can make us completely happy. Of course, everyone's requirements are different, but all the virtues of a woman can be instantly forgotten if she unpacks her suitcase in the first minutes of meeting.
A lady with a “suitcase” is easy to spot: she rarely smiles and, whenever possible, starts complaining about life. In a conversation with her, a man is a listener, not an interlocutor. And he wants attention and care. By the way, for the same reason, some men have mistresses, because they give that ease that wives don’t have.
With such women, sooner or later, the man also ends up in this “suitcase”. Both he and she understand this in the first minutes of meeting. But the most annoying thing is that such a model does not even give him a chance to be different. After all, when meeting a new person, each of us is given the opportunity to appear as someone we are not in reality. We play the role of “the best self”.
The conclusion is that women who smile, know how to listen, are energetic and easygoing are able to interest a man just by doing this.
Understands humor and knows when to joke
The world of humor is dominated by patriarchy. An ugly boy can win over the best girl in the class if he can make her laugh. If a girl decides to charm a guy with a joke about a trucker, he will at best just laugh at the joke.
Scientists from the US and Europe struggled to unravel this phenomenon and found an explanation. The work was published in the journal Psychology Today. The whole point is that women choose a partner more carefully, instinctively highlighting the best qualities to pass on to their offspring. A sense of humor indicates a person's high intelligence, this criterion has been critically important for survival throughout the history of human evolution.
At the same time, a man will prefer a woman who will laugh at his jokes, but will not take away his “bread”. This is already a question of competition for the right to be a leader, like a competition to see who is funnier. Men do not like to lose.
Not trying to be a princess
The vast majority of guys and even adult men, let's be honest, are afraid to meet decent girls. How to approach, what to say, what if it humiliates you? The last is the most difficult. Therefore, in the first minutes of acquaintance, they look as if they are about to be paralyzed, but they are on a horse, and, if necessary, are ready to gallop into the sunset on it, because "they didn't really want to."
The psychology of a princess is the most convenient for women, but, in the end, we ourselves suffer because of it - men are convinced that there are not enough decent women. Therefore, they are truly impressed by a companion who is able to combine the incompatible: on the one hand, prove her inaccessibility and give him the opportunity to be a conqueror, and on the other, show interest in him in such a way that he does not start to get even more confused and lost.
A woman who is willing to talk on equal terms (in terms of participation) automatically scores more points in his eyes.
She has a hobby.
They used to say that you need to be yourself to be liked by others. But you can hardly conquer someone by lying with a plate of food in front of the TV. Although that is also you. Therefore, it would be correct to rephrase the phrase - to be liked by others, you need to show the best version of yourself. And for this, a person must be interesting.
Men are just as intimidated by a woman's silence in the first few minutes of a conversation as by her mindless chatter. So if a woman has interests and is able to talk about them in an exciting way, this automatically raises her status in his eyes.
