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It's easy to get into a short-term relationship without any commitment, but it's much more difficult to build a long-term, stable relationship. You may have problems from the past, as well as childhood fears and current problems that will weaken your connection with your chosen one. If you've already met your loved one, try to work through the problems together. And for those who haven't found love yet, we'll help.
"He's going to break my heart"
Having experienced a painful breakup with a loved one, you will become more cautious - this is understandable and normal. However, it is important to look at the situation realistically and understand that a few unsuccessful novels do not mean that you will never meet your person. Do not be afraid to experience negative emotions, because life cannot consist of only positive things. It is better to study your chosen one more carefully and read the dangerous signals that indicate his unstable psyche, which will lead to a scandalous breakup. A breakup with an adequate person will not bring you so much pain, because the breakup, if it happens, will take place after a frank conversation in a calm state and a joint decision on how to live on.
If you have negative experiences from past relationships, consider the following questions:
- What important decisions have I made in this relationship?
- Did I tolerate something that annoyed or offended me in order to save the relationship?
- Did I throw tantrums or provoke arguments to get my husband's attention?
- Have I been hiding my true feelings to be convenient for my partner?
- I gave more, but didn't feel equal to my husband?
If you answer "yes" to at least one question, you need to work on the topic yourself or contact a psychologist who will help you complete the Gestalt.
"I don't want to get used to it"
The more often and longer you communicate with a person, the closer you become to each other. Many girls are afraid to fall in love with a guy until they see the first steps from him - it seems to them that a man goes on a date with them only because he wants to get intimate. If you really think so, you need to work on your self-esteem. Men are also people who are afraid of being rejected by the person they like, they cannot always quickly open up, although they hide behind the mask of a self-confident "male", and cautiously enter into close contact with those ladies who really interest them. Go to meet a person with an open heart and receive the same emotions from her - appreciate the moment, not the prospect of a successful marriage. Often, a few dates with an interesting person will be more significant for your development than a long-term relationship with a boring guy who has nothing to share with you.
"I need to find a simpler option"
For some reason, girls think that handsome men are looking for women who are similar to themselves — necessarily slender, tall girls with long blond hair. Believe me, often a man doesn’t even think about how handsome he is — do you often think about your appearance? They meet you by your clothes, but, don’t forget, they see you off by your mind. You can change your figure, hair color, and even eye color: you can always experiment with your appearance at your own discretion. However, not everyone has a good brain — many people are too lazy to develop it. Travel, read quality books, watch movies, visit exhibitions and restaurants, communicate with people from your country and with foreigners. Then you will attract a potential guy with your life experience and broad outlook, and not with the size of your buttocks.
