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A popular situation in psychological practice is when a woman, under the influence of her feelings, does not assess the real picture of what is happening. And in the absence of male initiative she sees only negative moments. Is this really so? And are there other options due to which a man is silent himself, but as soon as you show initiative, he is ready to respond to you and does it sincerely?
Of course, it is harder for women than for men. After all, society puts pressure on them, and there are such postulates as “if I wanted to, I would write!”, “if I needed you, I would have already turned around, called you somewhere.” In this way, a man turns out to be some kind of “evil genius” who only “powders his brain” and you are “absolutely indifferent to him.” And only by looking into the psychological aspects of this issue can we draw conclusions about strange male behavior.
The man is not sure about your feelings and his own.
Men are extremely cautious in relationships, and if there is no clear understanding that you are giving sufficient signals for rapprochement, he will prefer to remain silent and not take the first steps. And if there is also a traumatic experience of divorce and separation, then the man will generally avoid relationships and will be cautious, even ignoring you. Despite the fact that he may really like you.
Past experiences and/or your abrupt behavior
Your careless statement can forever block your man from taking the initiative. Why climb where everything can go wrong at any moment? Men are very careful about their feelings. And at the slightest sharp rustle they prefer to leave without looking back. And it is better to do it at the start than later, when he is already up to his ears in seriousness and relationships.
You are just causing concern.
The reasons can be different: from your close circle, to whom you can explain everything in detail, which a man would not like, to simply frank female arrogance and ridicule of male actions. Surprisingly, women sometimes, defending themselves, use irony and harsh jokes. And in men this causes one reaction: to move away, observing from another place. And if she herself appears, then he is ready to respond.
The man is not considering a long-term relationship.
Not with you personally, but generally for himself for a certain period. Thus, he relieves himself of any responsibility by his silence. And if you write yourself, he is friendly and polite, but not ready to change his decision.
The man is offended.
Or he is upset, disagrees with something and tries to show you his independence and even distance from you with his silence. At the same time, your appearance softens his heart. And your initiative regulates all tense emotions. That's why he doesn't write himself, but answers you.
You're not the only one, and mostly girls write to him themselves
He can only respond in this kaleidoscope of new girlfriends, so he is always happy, but he never writes first. This format constantly drives a woman into a state of suspense, because a man does not want to lose any of the harem. But there is no global value of you, just as there is no initiative towards you.
He is delicate and cannot say "no"
Trying not to offend you, the man shows with his silence that you have different paths. And he answers you out of politeness. Therefore, he is very patient and not active. In this situation, you can use a very simple tool: write three times, and if after that you have not communicated normally, have not met, then you should wave your hand at this intellectual.
He is deliberately keeping a distance from you because he has another woman in his heart.
However, your initiative distracts him, and he is happy to respond to you and distract himself with you. Such a case is dangerous. And if you show up with your initiative infrequently and on time, soon you will be sincerely welcomed.
The lack of male initiative is a standard you have come to terms with long ago.
There is a format of relationships in which the main role falls on the woman, and it is good if it suits both partners. And if not, then, usually, it is very convenient for the man. He is pleased and likes that you do everything for him yourself. He definitely will not want to change anything.
He is shy.
A man can be timid and shy. Yes, he can watch you and follow you with his eyes, but never show initiative. Therefore, your activity is perceived very positively by him, and as soon as he relaxes a little and feels safe, you will receive his real, masculine initiative.
