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When meeting a man, it is quite natural to assume that he has already had relationships with other girls before you. Even knowing perfectly well that all these relationships are in the past, almost all women think about their lover's ex-girlfriend, starting to compare her with themselves.
Don't panic!
First, stop panicking and try to pull yourself together. In this case, suppress all your negative emotions and change your attitude to the situation. Do not forget that you also have former young men, as well as just male acquaintances. Think about what will happen if your boyfriend starts thinking the same way as you.
Don't compare
First, never compare yourself to your boyfriend's or husband's ex-girlfriends. Such comparisons only speak to your insecurity in yourself and in your relationship, questioning the reliability of such a relationship.
Restraint is a blessing!
Refrain from asking your man about his past relationships. This is especially recommended for those girls who are not sure whether they will be able to calmly accept the information they hear.
I don't want to know anything.
There are cases when young people themselves are eager to remember past relationships. If you are not sure that you want to know about such details of his past that will be clearly unpleasant for you, try to gently make it clear that you do not want to know anything about it.
melancholy
If your husband has told you about his past relationships in great detail, extract useful information from his story about what you can do and what you should avoid.
Don't tell.
Never tell him about your past relationships, because even the calmest men are possessive at heart. They are annoyed by the fact that their beloved woman could have belonged to someone else. For this reason, the man will reproach you, using the information you shared with him.
No need
Refrain from examining the contents of his mobile phone, e-mail or notebook. Remember that a man will never be able to forgive you for not trusting him. He will perceive your actions as an invasion of personal space, considering himself a victim of your deceit. As a result, you will be the one to blame.
Calmer
What to do if a man continues to communicate with his ex-girlfriends? First, calm down and stop beating yourself up. Try to find out the nature of this communication and its content.
If his ex suspiciously often turns to him for advice or asks him for help, talk to him, explaining that constant charity and friendship are completely different things.
If your husband is unable to explain to you the purpose of his communication with ex-girlfriends, and also does not want to stop this communication, do not rush to give him an ultimatum. Start the conversation calmly, without showering him with accusations and reproaches. Calmness will speak about your confidence in yourself and in your relationship. Try to convey to him how unpleasant the situation is for you. Offer him to deal with this problem together. The man, seeing your interest in the situation, will definitely go to meet you.
Keep your relationship and don't rush to ruin it because of the slightest misunderstanding. Once you figure out the situation, you will see that everything is not as bad as you initially imagined.
