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At the beginning of the relationship, there is a feeling that it is definitely forever. Then often, unfortunately (or fortunately?), reality puts everything in its place. But there are universal ways to determine whether a relationship will result in a lifelong union.
10 factors, the presence of which strongly suggests that you will be happy with your partner for the rest of your life. But it is important to understand: if you do not have matches on all points, this is not a reason to be upset, because everything is subjective.
You are about the same social level
At the very beginning of the relationship, such differences are not noticeable, because we are in love and do not notice inconsistencies. But imagine: your partner is brought up in a completely different way, he has a different attitude to the simplest things, and he certainly does not understand you very well. Of course, if people want to be together, they will learn from each other and adapt. But it's still much easier if you grew up with the same books.
You have a similar sense of humor
It's just great when you understand what your partner is joking about, and it's doubly nice to see how much they enjoy your jokes. Sometimes in family life, only a sense of humor saves. And if you are on the same wavelength, this is already 90% of a successful life together!
You look at raising children in the same way
Of course, we are running a little ahead. When people have decided to have a child, this indicates that their relationship has already developed. But there is a place for pitfalls: you think that one child is enough, and the husband wants two more; or you are all for tempering, and your partner is cold at the thought that the baby will sleep without socks. It is better to discuss such points in advance (not on the first date, of course) to roughly imagine what you will meet next.
You are in solidarity with finances
It is very difficult to find a common language for a person who is not used to counting money and a person who is very responsible for every purchase. The topic of finances is very delicate, and it is worth connecting life with that person who shares your values. Because otherwise it will be the reason for scandals No. 1.
You have similar views on everyday life
"The family boat crashed into life" - in order not to become a direct participant in this drama, it is better to live with the intended life partner for at least a month in advance. If you're meticulous to the bone, and your partner doesn't know where the closet is in your house, there's reason to wonder if you can stand constant fights over scattered things?
You have roughly the same priorities in life
Yes, it is difficult to get along with people who have completely different life priorities. If your wife wants to devote herself to the house, and you did not expect to be the sole breadwinner in the family, then you will have to look for a compromise. And if you are not ready to spend a lot of energy where you could have made a different decision, then you should think carefully before entering into a relationship.
You are both ripe for a future together
If you have already matured for a family, and your partner pulls with a cherished offer of his hand and heart, it is very upsetting. It is worth looking closely at the beginning of the relationship, what are the person's priorities, does he want the same thing as you? And if so, feel free to enter into a relationship.
You are interesting together
When your relationship is already long enough and it seems that you know your partner inside and out, it is very valuable and important to be able to spend time in a way that interests you. It can be a trip to the cinema, a romantic evening or a walk - the main thing is that both of you are comfortable.
You don't want to remake each other
This applies to those who, entering into a relationship, think: "Yes, I don't really like his character, but I can change him." You won't be able to. At best, inspire change, but if you really don't like something very much and you think you can fix it, it's better not to start a relationship. Would you like to be molded into something you don't want to be?
