Psychologists and coaches say that finding a life partner should start with a clear idea of who you're looking for. That's why it's so important to make lists of qualities that your future lover should have.
Any man can be close to the ideal when a girl in love looks at him. But over time, as is known, feelings cool down, the prose of life drags on, and it becomes clear that our hero must have such qualities that do not disappear over time, like abs. And what qualities can turn an ordinary representative of the stronger sex into a real man?
For some, it is important for a man to be financially wealthy, for others, it is important for him to have an athletic physique. Some people like quiet introverts, while others need a cheerful person by their side. But we still chose the most important male traits.
So, what skills does a man need to become a true hero of women's dreams? We're publishing a list to make it easier for you to create your own.
Be able to earn money
Usually, men, having heard these words, deny, saying that women are prostitutes, they only need money. But you must admit, it is difficult to respect a man, life with whom turns into a quest “how to survive until the salary and how to pay the debt for utilities”. Situations, of course, can be different, but a real man should be ashamed to live at someone else’s expense and reflect on the couch while his wife works three jobs. A man should not only earn, but also manage his finances wisely. Spenders, gamblers and lovers of easy money go to the blacklist.
Be reliable
Stability is good not only for the economic life of the country, but also in personal life. Few people want to wait for new “adventures” every day. Therefore, we add reliability and decency to the piggy bank of the best male qualities. He does not cheat and does not evade problems, trying to get a better place in this life at someone else's expense. He will not give up in a difficult moment and will not let you down, but, on the contrary, will lend a shoulder, come to the rescue. You can trust him.
Don't be afraid of responsibility
He does not blame anyone, does not shift responsibility for his failures, actions, choices and much more. He does not complain about fate, but accepts the circumstances of life and solves problems. He knows his weaknesses and knows how to overcome them. It's simple, but many men lack this.
Hiding your negative emotions
A man who cannot live without quarrels is a hundred times worse than a woman with this trait. Women's emotionality can be justified at least with hormones, men's - with nothing. Believe me, a man who has become accustomed to raising his voice, making scandals, getting nervous, looks pathetic. And it doesn't matter where he makes these scenes: at home with his wife, colleagues in the office or a saleswoman in a store. Being able to control your feelings and not get into conflicts is a good trait, especially for a real man.
Keep your word
A man who respects himself will not throw words to the wind. He said - he did. His promises are identical to actions. He is honest with himself and others. He will never allow himself to be deceived or outwitted, his sense of self-esteem is more important.
To love children
A real man does not refuse to take care of his children, it is not a problem for him to get up at night to change his child's diaper, and to go for a walk with the baby during the day. He enjoys spending time with the kids, is not shy about playing with them and finds time to explain important things. This happens when children are not a burden, but a joy, when you love them and enjoy your parenthood.
Protect loved ones
This is a rule for all occasions in life: it should be calm next to this man. His beloved should know: no matter what happens, the man will come to her aid, and it is not necessary to use force for this. Although physical strength is also an argument. In general, another quality in the piggy bank is to stand up for yourself and your loved ones.
Driving a car
The modern world does not like stereotypes. So driving is a controversial issue for many. There are many wonderful families in which the driver is the wife, the passenger is the husband. There are many ladies who like to drive fast, and clumsy male drivers. But still, cars, motorcycles, yachts are men's territory. Maintenance and repair of transport is also an exclusively male concern. You don't have to be a car mechanic and spend your weekends on the overpass, sorting through spare parts for your transport, but it would be good to know the principles of how a car works, be able to change a tire or fix a minor breakdown on the road.
Be able to replace a light bulb
And also hammering a nail, fixing a leaking faucet, or assembling a purchased cabinet. And there is no need to make excuses that the master will do everything faster and better. It is much more pleasant to see and know that your beloved knows how to hold a screwdriver in his hands, and men's housework does not scare him.
Understand computer programs
Times are changing - now the ability to tame a computer and all the digital gadgets in the house is valued no less than changing the faucet in the sink. Of course, every woman would like to turn to her husband, and not to an outside specialist, to download a driver, reinstall Windows and connect the Internet. So, dear men, keep this in mind.
Build a fire and chop wood
It's not scary to go on a trip with this man, because he knows how to behave in extreme conditions, he is oriented in the terrain, can make a fire, provide first aid after you get injured. And you don't have to become a tourist to test his knowledge of the basics of survival. These skills may be useful on a picnic in the forest or at the cottage.
Fry the kebab
And don't argue: only a man should marinate meat and roast it on a fire. In general, there is an opinion that a man is better at cooking meat than a woman. But even if his culinary talents end with scrambled eggs, we girls relax in nature, because men cook barbecue.
Possess eloquence and humor
Good speech is an indicator of intelligence, education, reading, and self-confidence. It’s great if a man can make a good toast, tell a good joke or anecdote, compliment a woman, support a conversation in a company, answer his beloved’s questions not with a one-syllable “yes-no,” but in more detail. So, you can also draw conclusions based on this sign.
Take care of your appearance
A man who respects himself maintains physical fitness not only at the age of 18, but throughout his life (a barbell and dumbbells on the balcony don't take up much space). He is always fit, neat, and tastefully dressed.
To tie a tie
Agree, when a man knows how to tie a tie, his personal rating increases by one point. And even if he rarely wears a business suit, there is a chance to surprise his beloved by skillfully tying a tricky knot on his tie. By the way, advice to mothers of sons: teach a boy to tie a tie in childhood, then he will thank you.