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In old magazines, you can find a caricature - a snow-covered man in a summer suit stands under a clock waiting for a date. Nowadays, at the subway exit, you will often see a woman nervously peering into the flow of people and checking her watch again.
Modern men are late for dates much more often than women. Why? If he is sloppy, does not know how to manage time, then the reasons for his lack of punctuality are obvious, whatever arguments he gives in his justification. But men who are able to plan every minute and show up on time for business meetings are also late for dates. And then women are offended, seeing in their lateness contempt and inattention. But this is not always the case - there can be a variety of reasons.
Inability and unwillingness to wait
One of the most common reasons for male tardiness is the inability to wait. A man is active by nature. Unlike women, who from time immemorial meet men of war and hunting, he is not adapted to patient waiting. And if you delay even for one minute, disturbing thoughts begin to swirl in his head:
- Maybe you didn't want to meet him?
- Or did you vaguely agree on the place and time of the meeting?
- Did something happen to you?
It doesn't take long to become paranoid!
Here is a man who chooses the lesser of two evils, preferring to apologize and listen to your reproaches than to twitch in anticipation. To avoid such problems, do not give him reason to doubt that you yourself will come on time.
Some women believe that being late for a date is some kind of charm given to them by etiquette. Many years ago, this was indeed the case, and women began to wear watches much later. But even then, men were not worried about women's tardiness. At least the first half hour. Now this rule of social etiquette is hopelessly outdated - the fast pace of life makes its demands on both men's and women's punctuality.
Uncertainty in relationships and sympathies
Another reason for men's tardiness is insecurity in your relationships and sympathies. In this case, the man "tests" you by offering a choice. If you really wanted this meeting, then you will wait for it. And if you simply agreed because it was inconvenient to refuse, you have the moral right to leave before his late arrival.
Most often, he does it unconsciously and does not admit even to himself the true reason for his tardiness. Usually, such a "test" is presented at the first meeting, but if there is a lot of unspoken and ambiguous things in your relationship, then he can use it in the future.
To avoid such "checks", try to be more sincere and honestly tell him about your desires and reluctance. Despite the external "unbreakability", a man is a vulnerable, anxious and insecure creature. He is terribly afraid of being rejected and at the same time does not want to seem intrusive. Try to protect him from unnecessary doubts, and he will become more punctual with you.
An effective way to "teach" a man who is always late
Well, if "soft" methods do not give results, and he continues to be late, try not to wait for him at least once. Of course, you will lose much more than half an hour waiting, maybe your whole day will fly by in vain. But his day too! Do not doubt, after that he will surely come on time.
