How to understand that you have not yet managed to forget your ex-partner

Breaking up with a former partner is often very painful. You try to move on, but sad memories keep haunting you. If there is at least one of these signs that you agree with, it means that the pain of loss still remains in your heart. Try to eradicate the things that prevent you from enjoying life. You should not keep memories of someone who neglected your love.

You monitor his social networks

You constantly try to be aware of the personal life of the former chosen one. You look at his new photos, check contacts and try to recreate in your imagination what he is doing now. Get a hold of yourself and leave your loved one's page alone. Make a promise to yourself not to visit it for a certain period of time. You will soon get used to the fact that this person no longer interests you.

You find flaws in new partners

People tend to idealize the person they have lost. Now you are doing the same thing. Each person has his own positive and negative character traits. And if you broke up with your ex-partner, it means that he had more negatives than positives. Try to find more good qualities in your current lover. You will probably see them, since your choice has fallen on this person right now.

You keep saying nice things about your ex

This fact is an echo of the previous point. Kind words addressed to your former chosen one are now just an empty sound. If he was that good, it wouldn't have led to a breakup. But since everything has already happened, you should leave these memories and switch to more important things. Don't dwell on the past, there are enough good guys in the world to forget the past and enjoy their company.

You keep his things

You're still hoping he'll come back, so you're not in a rush to throw away his t-shirts or shirts (for example, the one you used to wear). Feel sorry for yourself and do not provoke tears and sadness. If this thing is an object of memories for you, try to throw it in the trash, and the memories - out of your head (the more often it comes into your eyes, the more you will worry). A thing that you wore, but still retains its smell, should not be in your wardrobe either. You probably have enough clothes to avoid using the belongings of a stranger to you from now on.

You are listening to your favorite song

There is probably a song or melody that reminds you of events in the past. You put it on repeat and continue to suffer and cry. There is no need to do this, because it already looks like masochism. Do not make fun of yourself and do not relive the past in your memory. It's over and you should move on. In this case, try to listen to new tunes, because life goes on and time heals everything.

You criticize his new girlfriend

Of course, your ex's new passion is still worse than you, and there's no doubt about that. Convince yourself of this thought and forget about this couple. Now let the new chosen one experience all the negative moments that you experienced. Probably everything was fine at first, but now we have to lick our wounds. It is possible that he will do the same with her. Try to pretend you don't care who your ex hangs out with. Take care of your own life, it will bring much more benefit.

You bring your figure to order

While you were in a relationship, you lost your attractive shape. They stopped following themselves and allowed a few extra kilograms to be added. Now you have decided to put yourself in order, hoping that the young man, seeing you, will regret his decision to break up. You should not do this as revenge, since it was not your figure that ruined the relationship. It's not about appearance, there are more important reasons for a breakup. And getting yourself in order should be your personal desire, and do it solely for yourself and your confidence.

You keep in touch with his relatives

You are friends with the mother or sister of your ex-lover because you are trying to get everything back and return to your past life. In this case, these contacts can be toxic both for you and for the young man's relatives. You will not be able to move on because you will be aware of his whole life (your personal life will be of secondary importance). And the mother or sister of the former lover will be in an awkward position, since they will not be able to voluntarily accept the boyfriend's new lover. They are forced to some degree of loyalty to you instead of him. If you really decide to continue the friendship, you should have a purely business relationship that does not concern your personal life and the life of your ex-partner.

You call or text him

Even if your motivation is to be friendly or say hello, it gives the impression of being stalked. You try to understand how a person lives today and what role you play in his life. It is not necessary to clarify, since each of you has gone your own way, and it is not necessary to interfere with each other. Try not to get in his way again, at least for a while. It is necessary to understand that you are no longer together, and try to come to terms with it. And when emotions take a back seat and logic turns on, perhaps you will still communicate in the mode of friendship and mutual assistance.

Instead of a conclusion

You need to understand the following: the past cannot be brought back, so you should continue to live. Do everything to change your attitude to parting, try to distract yourself with affairs and searching for a new companion. So you can find happiness in your personal life again.