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Psychologists do not get tired of reminding that excessive self-criticism does not lead to good and advise to look at yourself from the side more often in order to once again make sure of your "normality and adequacy". After all, what you consider harmful (or even terrible) habits can actually be perceived by others as your individuality, charm and charm. What negative traits of your character are not as terrible as you think.
The habit of turning everything into a joke
At first, such a habit can be frightening, because hardly anyone wants to deal with a frivolous personality, believing that at the most important moment, she can let the whole team down. However, on the other hand, a non-standard approach and the ability to defuse the atmosphere can, on the contrary, save the situation and make you a hero in the eyes of others. In addition, optimists and cheerful people are often the soul of the company, those who are trusted with the most intimate secrets and to whom they turn for advice in the first place.
Self-confidence bordering on arrogance
Of course, few people like narcissistic arrogant people who are used to going over their heads, but self-confident individuals who know how to competently "sell" their talents or those of others are actually respected and appreciated. Such people attract with their charisma, high self-esteem and energy. They know exactly what they want from life and know how to get it. It will not be difficult for them to lead or inspire the team to conquer new heights. They will be the first to undertake the implementation of the plan and will show by their own example that nothing is impossible.
Excessive talkativeness and directness
Bazika - a find for a spy? Yes, but only if the matter concerns some state or industrial secret. At other times, your hyper-sociability can even be very useful: establish contacts, get a desired position, or even find a partner for the implementation of some promising project. After all, the more you talk to people (and share your ideas), the more chances you will find like-minded people and even friends. In addition, many large contracts and agreements are discussed precisely in a relaxed atmosphere, after it has been possible to establish contact and locate an interlocutor. As for straightforwardness, this character trait can also be very useful to those around you, being a guarantee that you will not fail at a critical moment and will not wriggle out, trying by any means to get out of some delicate situation.
Excessive frankness
Shouldn't you reveal all the secrets, otherwise others may decide that you are irresponsible and childish? However, not in the case when it comes to establishing relationships with people you don't know or renewing contacts. According to psychologists, individuals who are able to open up almost at the first meeting command more respect and trust than those who try to elicit some information from the interlocutor, while at the same time avoiding in every possible way questions related to him. However, the main thing here is not to exaggerate and not to reveal to others something that they can later use against you. Just determine for yourself the degree of what you can safely tell even strangers and the information that is intended only for close people.
Struggle for truth and justice
Of course, you need to tell the truth, but if you regularly tell people everything you think about them, then don't be surprised if people around you dislike you. However, if your directness does not border on the absurd and does not contradict the laws of conservation, then you can be very useful to others. Psychologists assure that such personalities will never betray, because you can entrust them with some important project or secret and not worry that competitors will find out about it. In order not to fall under the hand at the most important moment and to direct your principles in the right direction, your partners (colleagues or friends) will try to keep you close and not annoy you.
The need for gossip and intrigue
It turns out that your love of brushing the bones of people you know (or not so) might not be as annoying as you might think. Despite the fact that gossip and intrigue by themselves cause dissatisfaction and misunderstanding in most individuals, there are those who turn them to their own good, establishing a special connection with the interlocutor or growing useful contacts. As they say, a common cause (or a person against whom everyone is friends) unites, so especially resourceful people specially keep gossipers and intriguers with them in order to be aware of the latest events and adapt to new conditions in time. The main thing is not to go beyond what is allowed and not to get carried away.
Unhealthy adventurism and clumsiness
Adventurism, of course, is different, but if you are inclined to leave the house with only a foreign passport, because you may meet evening in Italy and dawn in Austria, this, believe me, does not annoy those around you, but rather makes them feel jealous. Psychologists claim that your thirst for travel, discovery and research reveals a remarkable creative personality, which arouses great sympathy in those around you. Even if they don't consider you a serious person who can be entrusted with a responsible project, they will still watch your adventures with interest, demanding more and more details and experiments from you. As for clumsiness, the talent to get into ridiculous situations, although it will not give you points in the eyes of others, it will definitely make them loyal to you, indulgent to all your antics. And you know, it can really come in handy at some point.
Pathological shyness
If you have always believed that your shyness affects other people's nerves, then we hasten to reassure you. Psychologists claim that shy individuals, who are able to blush when embarrassed or are afraid to disturb someone's peace once again, actually cause more trust and sympathy, unlike self-confident scoundrels who try to make their way in life at the expense of others.