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How do you face change? Do you rush into battle? Or do you need time to think things over and adjust to the new situation? Even small changes create resistance, and its strength depends on the time you have, your expectations, and the impact they can have on your life.
Sudden changes knock you off your feet. The birth of a child, a move or even the appearance of a roommate is a sharp turn in the usual course of life. Time becomes the main factor that makes change manageable or, on the contrary, unbearable.
Knowing that your life will change will help you better prepare for even the biggest changes. Be it dismissal or the death of a loved one after a long illness — you have time to adapt to the outcome. When changes happen suddenly, you feel overwhelmed, shocked and unable to overcome difficulties.
Anxious people focus on the negative aspects of change, constantly thinking about what else could go wrong. Thus, they increase the negative effect of events that have not yet occurred. Fear prevents you from accepting change, even if its impact turns out to be less than expected. Making an elephant out of a fly, you waste energy and time that could be spent on more pleasant things. But if you believe that the changes will be minor, you will expect them with less trepidation. Therefore, boldly go forward and not only hope for the best, but also expect the best.
When you know what to do, you find a sense of direction and a clear purpose. By moving in small steps, you make sure that you successfully adapt to the new situation. Success breeds success. When you see yourself moving forward instead of stagnating, your confidence in your ability to handle challenges will grow.
To embrace change, make sense of it. When changes have a purpose, you stop perceiving them only as a "disruption" of the usual order of things.
These 7 ideas will help you embrace change:
1. Get rid of inflated expectations of how everything "should be" after the changes.
2. Don't idealize your past life before "it all started."
3. Look at what happened in a different way. Force yourself to find positive aspects in the changes.
4. If change is inevitable, focus on moving forward rather than resisting it.
5. Give yourself time to mourn what you're losing, but don't let yourself sink into depression.
6. Don't wallow in self-pity. Pity occurs when you cannot handle a situation. Remember that you have the strength to keep going, even if it seems difficult.
7. Seek support from people who have experienced similar situations. Their experience will show you that although change is not always pleasant, any difficulties can be overcome.
Everyone dreams that his life will become clear and predictable. Unfortunately, this is an impossible dream. When the world changes, you have to be open to change!
