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Everyone knows what an unpleasant feeling it is and how difficult it is to live when a loved one is not around. Psychologists talked about what is strictly forbidden to do after a breakup.
Change appearance
Many ladies immediately after a difficult breakup go to the salon to get a tattoo that will remind them of their past love. This is a reckless move: according to statistics, the probability that this tattoo will disappoint you in the future is about 50-60%.
The same goes for the image as a whole. Many women change their color from blonde to brunette and vice versa. This can be fixed, but it also hits the wallet and is the wrong decision. Psychologists explain all these obsessive desires by the fact that a woman puts everything on herself: "I'm unattractive, he dumped me because of this, I need to change my image to forget him." In fact, it's better to just wait a little longer before making changes.
Call him
This is a favorite topic of heartbroken women. As soon as the lady becomes very sad, she can call the loved one with whom she broke up.
Wise women understand that love cannot be returned in this way, so they try to forget their husband and completely erase him from their lives, deleting all photos and videos with him, and not only on the hard drive of the computer, but also from the phone and social networks. This helps avoid nostalgic memories that make you reach for the phone.
Stay friends
As you know, friendship between a man and a woman does not exist. You can remain good acquaintances, without negativity and without resentment towards each other, but for this you do not need to enter into negotiations. You will not be able to be friends, because sooner or later he will fall in love with another woman, and this will break your heart a second time. Only a break, and a complete and irreversible one.
Blame only yourself for everything
This is a false road that leads to serious problems with self-esteem. Most likely, there is simply no one to blame. It sounds like nonsense, but believe it. It's not your fault, it's not his fault. That's how it turned out. We have to go further.
Start learning from what happened. Assess the situation soberly by analyzing why you contributed to the breakup and why he contributed to it. Be realistic and don't beat yourself up.
To think that there will be no better relations
"This relationship was ideal, the best", "He was simply beautiful", "He filled life with meaning". In fact, it's just a relationship. Don't make them something unique. You had and will have love. You just need to believe in yourself and not get attached to what has already been destroyed.
Even if it really was a very good relationship, it shouldn't make you suffer because of it. Don't try to fix everything, because according to statistics, only 3% of successful re-relationships happen, which is incredibly low.
Take revenge with new relationships
The worst case scenario is when a lady immediately starts dating an acquaintance of her ex after breaking up.
First, it is necessary to let go of resentment and get back in order, completely freed from psychological problems. Only after that, psychologists advise to look for a new love, and it is desirable that the new man is not from the circle of the former.
