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Man is a family and social animal, and we all feel the need to follow the unspoken rules of behavior that correspond to age or status.
A woman is a flower, she cannot be without the care and protection of a strong shoulder, be it a father, brother or husband. And if they are ready to forgive the whims and demands of their beloved relatives, to tolerate their refusals on request, then in family life an eccentric lady risks turning into a psychological abuser for all her surroundings. There is a time for everything, including flowing into a different state of mind and sense of self, when priorities in life change.
It turns out, a married woman owes everything?
By no means, when getting married, you should not forget that the responsibility for everything that happens inside your small conglomerate now lies with the two of you. Including, you are responsible for the moral state of your partner and are obliged to reckon with him. There is no place for extremes: no tyranny, no unnecessary sacrifices.
A married woman: what is the time to give up?
Selfishness. Living as an only child in a family for a long time, worrying only about your own needs, can make you feel that everyone always owes you. Now just understand that rivalry for life, children or rightness of opinion should be put aside, otherwise your partner will feel abandoned and unwanted.
Blackmail. Demanding to go to your mother with tears, tantrums and threats disrupts your family harmony, which will not be so easy to restore. If the situation takes a serious turn and leads to a sad development of events, do not be afraid to contact a family psychologist.
Discussion of the husband in the presence of outsiders. Trying to assert yourself in society, looking for approval by criticizing it, will hurt you, first of all. Up to the complete loss of authority in the eyes of relatives and acquaintances. Why are you living with him if he is so bad?
Prolonging conflicts. Long grudges, intemperance in emotions and poor self-control undermine your family from the inside. As wise women say, quarrels should be ended before going to bed, and spouses should sleep together.
Division into "mine" and "our" or "mine" and "yours". Today, a woman often earns not only less, but often equal to and even more than her husband. Archaic attitudes that a man should support the family alone have long been ineffective. This applies to everything you have together: money, property, relations with your husband's relatives and the family microclimate." Take your share.
"Trading" intimacy. Give up the habit of withdrawing from your husband, wanting to receive a certain material or emotional bonus. Such a manipulative game cannot last forever and will cause its consequences: from scandals to betrayals and seeking sympathy in someone else's arms.
A family, like any mechanism that works 24/7, requires regular rebooting and refueling, otherwise it will simply fail. Give "air" to your soul mate, live your interests, be with friends and take care of his well-being no less than your own, and then maybe not only your children, but also grandchildren and great-grandchildren will celebrate your golden anniversary of life together with you .
