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All people, without exception, love to be told something nice. But it is important to remember that not all compliments can be perceived equally positively. Psychologists will tell you how to make compliments as effectively as possible.
You give compliments to impress
This is completely wrong if the person is dear to you. First, you need to set up the internal link so that it appears on your words. If a man, for example, compliments a girl on a date because he is truly impressed by her beauty or eloquence, then that is one thing, but if he does it just to impress her, then the effect will be the opposite.
Of course, you will manage to deceive a person once, twice, three times, but in the end, the interlocutor will sooner or later understand that you are not saying what you think. This will push her away from you, so remember that it is better not to say anything than to say a lie.
Speak honestly and openly - "I like your persistence", "I like your simplicity", "I adore your kind eyes". This will make you original in his or her eyes. No need to come up with something fancy.
You are not focusing on what is important
If you really need to impress a person and win their love, then you need to praise what they are most proud of. Many people try to come up with some unique compliment, which is why they burn out, because the person understands that you did not emphasize his strong point.
Just look at the person in front of you. If she looks very strict and does not speak much, then she will like a laconic compliment without bright words. Most likely, she will recognize the deception very quickly and will notice badly if you try to deceive her. She is probably very busy and doesn't like to be distracted by little things. You can tell her something like: "How do you manage everything? You are incredibly collected."
To a beautiful girl who is dressed with a needle and according to the latest fashion, you can say: "You are very stylish/fashionable". You can say that she is smartly dressed. She tries to show everyone her talent for choosing clothes, so such a compliment will definitely be to her taste.
You give everyone the same compliments in a row
If no one finds out about it, then nothing terrible will happen, but if, for example, men or women find out that you give the same compliment to everyone, then they may doubt your sincerity or, even worse, your mental abilities .
And it doesn't matter at all if your significant other finds out about it, to whom you also gave some standard compliment. This can lead to a break in the relationship, because few people want to be part of the crowd.
You give a lot of compliments
They may be sincere, but in this situation they simply lose their weight. A person will no longer be impressed if you constantly say something nice to him about his behavior or appearance. It is not for nothing that they say that "sweet" can cause problems. It really is.
Saying nice words to loved ones or friends, colleagues or loved ones is necessary in moderation, focusing on how your personal relationships are built in each specific situation. So those around you will not forget that you see their beauty, but you are sincere, you put your soul into it.
Look the person in the eye and watch your voice
When we give a compliment, it is important to direct all our energy towards the person. You can hug her or hold her hand, but the most important thing is to just look her in the eyes. You can complement your body language with a smile. The simplest but sincere compliment, said with a smile, becomes a very expensive gift for any person.
You don't give compliments in real life
Many people make the mistake of giving compliments via SMS or social media. If a person is out of reach, you can record a video or say something pleasant over a video call.
Letters are not perceived the way we would like, although some psychologists believe that in long-term love or friendship relationships, you can safely give compliments over the Internet, because people tend to infer a person's emotions on their own, imagining how a person smiles.