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Returning to work after maternity leave or simply after a long break is not easy. Mom worries that she won't be able to adapt to new conditions immediately (freedom in choosing a schedule and lack of specific communication with colleagues makes itself felt). There is also concern that it is possible to miss the process of the baby's development and maturation. To avoid these negative emotions, it is necessary to take into account certain rules.
No need to be sad
Some mothers are so attached to their children that they cannot imagine a single moment of life without them. It seems to them that they will be very bored and will not be able to concentrate on work. If you belong to this category, you should change the way you think about this situation. In order to be happy, balance is necessary. And he is there to give a little freedom to himself and the baby. A change of environment (after all, you have been at home for so many months or years!) will only benefit you. You will thereby help your child to diversify his impressions and emotions, as he will try to spend time with other people (this will allow him to learn to communicate with others).
Feel the taste of freedom
Today, you are sure that there is nothing better than spending time at home with your baby. You forgot how much you loved being free before he was born. Now your pleasure can be doubled. You will again be in demand as a specialist, you will have the opportunity to contact colleagues and meet new people.
You will have many experiences every day that were not there before. In addition to this, you will be happy to return home, because your beloved baby and relatives, whom you missed during the day, will be waiting for you there. What else could be better?
Customize your schedule
You need to consider the schedule in order to be on time. Try to take care of getting out of bed on time and have time for household chores: prepare everything for the child and get ready for work. Then go to work, and when you get home, do everything you can to make the morning assembly easier. In a few days, you will get used to such a schedule, you will find the most optimal option and you will calmly adhere to it in the future.
Ask for help
It is safe to say that you will not be able to handle everything on your own. Therefore, invite a babysitter, ask relatives to sit with the child or arrange with a friend who also has a baby. Maybe she works too, and you can take turns looking after the children.
It is necessary to have help at home, because work and doing all the household chores will quickly lead to the fact that you will get overtired. Let the husband and older children take over part of the work, talk to them about this topic and distribute the responsibilities so that everyone is comfortable. Don't be afraid to ask for help, because everyone in the household and maybe even friends should be interested in this.
Get plenty of sleep
You probably want to spend time on social media or watch your favorite TV series. This is also necessary, but try to sacrifice some of this time for sleep. You should rest completely so that your brain has a chance to relax. Therefore, try to leave your favorite hobbies for weekends, and on weekdays, get a good night's sleep in order to be able to work productively at work and at home.
In order to determine the optimal bedtime, go to bed at the same time several days in a row and get up without an alarm clock (ask family members to give you this opportunity before going to work). The time of your sleep will determine how many hours will be enough for you to rest. If there is no such opportunity to sleep at once, take a break for a midday nap.
Be honest with your boss
You should discuss all the conditions of your schedule with your boss in advance. Ask to give you a reduced work day or week, more days off, or even offer him a flexible schedule. Do not rush to draw up a long-term contract, conclude it for one or several months. If all goes well, you can extend it at any time.
Think about all the options and write them down, because changes can happen and you will not have evidence. For example, management will change, and your legal days off will turn into absenteeism. And in the case of a previous, officially certified agreement, you will be sure of tomorrow. Your management will also be satisfied with this, because based on this situation, they will also be able to optimize their work.
Fight stress
You need to have a reserve of patience and positive emotions, because stressful situations cannot be allowed. If unforeseen and unpleasant situations will arise at work, in no case do not bring your nervous state home. If you come home from work upset and irritated, this will definitely affect the condition of the child. The baby may become fussy or even sick.
It will be a bad story in which you will transfer all domestic problems to work. That is, you will come without a mood and instead of dealing with your immediate duties, you will solve them during working hours (using the phone or the Internet). So you will let your boss and colleagues down, because they were counting on a good employee, but they got a mother who can't handle anything. If problems arise at work or at home, do not be afraid to leave your job. It's probably too early for you to go back there.
Put the phone down
Try to build your work so that it does not interfere with personal affairs. Whether you're picking up a child from kindergarten while driving a car, or relaxing with your husband and children, all of this is your personal time. Ask the management and colleagues not to disturb you, as you will not drop everything and fully immerse yourself in work processes. Turn off your work phone and rest peacefully in the family circle.
Also, warn your family and friends that you are not allowed to call during working hours. Exceptions are only emergency cases. You will dial the number yourself or write when the opportunity arises.
Don't be afraid to change your goals
When you go to your former workplace, you assume that everything has remained the same there. But in fact, everything could have changed a long time ago, since a lot of time has passed. Your idea of work could also change. Before, you were not in the status of a mother, so everything suited you. And today your priorities have changed, and your views on things have also become different.
Therefore, there is nothing surprising in the fact that today the situation at work will seem completely uninteresting and unacceptable to you. Do not be afraid to answer honestly to yourself the question of how much everything suits you. If this occupation no longer brings you pleasure or, on the contrary, causes you irritation, give up the intention to return to work. At least to the former place.
Take days off more often
This advice does not apply to all women. For some, those weekends that are provided for in the schedule are enough. But if you feel that something has gone wrong, it means that you are a little tired. Paid and unpaid days off are provided for you. Use all the rights of a mother, because only your good health will make your work successful and your personal life happy.