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Every responsible parent tries to give his child the best: they spoil him with sweets, hire tutors, and encourage him with expensive gadgets and toys for good grades. But even excessive care will not save the child from the prospect of being face to face with this world and at the same time being absolutely prepared for its perception.
If you want to make a significant contribution to your daughter's future, develop awareness and willpower in her, we will tell you what to talk to her about and what to pay attention to before she becomes an adult.
Explain how her body is arranged
Now appearance does not concern her much, but in adolescence dissatisfaction with herself will inevitably arise. Explain to the child that the importance of external beauty is greatly exaggerated. Small breasts, short legs, folds on the stomach or thin hair do not determine success in life and it is not a reason to be ashamed of yourself. In addition, it is much more important to teach a child to love himself as he is, giving freedom for self-improvement. In such an atmosphere, it will be easier for her to accept herself and other people with all their flaws.
It is also important to become a positive example for your child and back up your words with actions. It's time to panic about every kilogram gained, do not shame yourself and others for excessive love of sweets, tell us what is good for our body, and show how to eat right, avoiding strict diets. Such an experience will stay in her memory for a long time, will form a healthy attitude towards her body in the girl and increase her self-confidence.
As she matures, tell her how her female health is arranged, so that in the future she will not be ashamed of the manifestation of natural processes. This approach will open the child to the strange world of the female body, which she will be able to take care of on her own.
Learn to express your feelings
A child who understands his emotions is less likely to withdraw into himself, show aggression and disobedience. Your task is not to scold her for yet another tantrum, but to understand the feelings behind her behavior. Perhaps the daughter lost her favorite toy, had a fight with a friend, or was just tired - ask the child what happened, explain that her feelings are completely natural, and help find a way out of the situation.
Listen to your child, encourage him to talk about his feelings, become a true friend to him. Over time, she will learn to manage her emotions, not to accumulate them in herself, and will be confident that she can handle any life situation.
Teach independence
A child will not become independent at the click of a finger, this skill must be developed from early childhood. If the child does not show activity, make a list of duties that he could perform on his own. To begin with, you can transfer part of the responsibility for household chores: let her make the bed herself in the morning, neatly put things in the closet, set the table and wash the dishes after herself.
Do not forget to praise her for her efforts and, even if something does not work out at first, do not rush to redo everything for her. Solving problems on his own, the child will become purposeful, get rid of helplessness and will not pull you away for the slightest reason.
Maintain interest in learning new things
Finding motivation for learning is an important step to take together with your child. If the child is too lazy to read or learn English, and reaches for the smartphone every free minute, just keep him company. Discuss the plots of books and the actions of the characters, translate the lyrics of your favorite songs, solve crosswords, visit exhibitions and painting workshops, travel more.
Show the child that learning and learning new things is not boring at any age, and then learning will cease to be a punishment for him.
Cultivate the habit of taking care of your body
It is extremely important to accustom the child to an active lifestyle — for example, doing exercises in the morning, walking more in the fresh air or signing up for a dance. The main thing is that these classes bring pleasure. Show your daughter how many options to lead an active life and engage in creativity are available to her today. Ask the child what he likes more: ballroom dancing, hip-hop, rhythmic gymnastics, or maybe ballet.
The advantage of the latter is that it helps not only to strengthen muscles, develop flexibility, remove flat feet and prevent scoliosis, but also to instill a love for art, in particular for melodic classical music, a healthy body and aesthetics. In fact, this is a classical choreography, which is considered the basis of all dance directions, including rhythmic gymnastics.