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Striving to create with our partner, if not an ideal relationship, then a rather strong and reliable union, we often find ourselves in the grip of mistakes that prevent us from achieving our goal. These are not even mistakes in the relationship, but rather delusions and some self-confidence, which at a certain moment in the relationship make us relax, believing that everything will be fine now, but later this self-confidence turns into a failure in the relationship, up to its complete break.
Here is the same rating of mistakes that often become the reason for the impossibility of building an ideal relationship.
We can now relax together
A delusion, and perhaps a mistake of many partners, both men and women, when building relationships is that as soon as the relationship is more or less established, partners begin to "relax" and believe that there is no need to always look perfect for your loved one, you can no longer give gifts and arrange pleasant surprises, etc. Often this can lead to the fact that people begin to look at each other with completely different eyes and understand that perhaps their relationship is a mistake.
The longer we are together, the better we know each other
At the initial stage of the relationship, we want to learn as much as possible about our beloved person, but there comes a moment when the impression begins to be created that it is impossible to learn anything new about the beloved person and the previously existing interest and need to communicate with him gradually fades away. Close people should always communicate, because communication itself is one of the foundations of sustainable development of relations. Discussing work problems, what happened during the day, plans for the weekend or vacation, even these everyday topics will help to always remain close to each other.
Arguments can destroy relationships, so it's better to stick to your opinion
Disputes and quarrels are always quite unpleasant, so many people try to avoid them, keeping their opinion to themselves, even if this opinion does not coincide with the opinion of their partner. As a result, the difference in opinions will become more and more significant each time, and since the discussion of these situations does not take place, somewhere in the depths of the soul, the thought will begin to arise that our opinions do not coincide and we are so different, it may not make sense to maintain the relationship further.
The same situation with different views on the same issue would look completely different if both opinions were expressed, and the partners could discuss each of them and come to a common opinion (although this is not necessary). Discussing differences, even with disputes and quarrels, allows you to reach a new level of relationship formation in the future and will help you understand each other, it is only important not to perceive these disputes as something offensive, because it is absolutely normal.
A loved one should know what her partner wants from her
This delusion most often occurs in women, they believe that their husband should always know what she wants and literally anticipate her wishes or at least understand something from the hints made to him. This is one of the mistakes women make in relationships with men, because almost no man is so perceptive and guessing to understand hints and guess the desires of women. There is a way out in this situation and it is simple and obvious, if a woman wants something, she must say it directly and only in this case you can count on the fact that everything will be exactly like that (although it would be better not to just say, but to tell in detail with in all details).
We should always be together
Of course, loved ones should spend a lot of time together, this is normal and natural, but being together absolutely always is absolutely not necessary and not even necessary. At least once a week you can and should go out without your partner or meet friends together, be in noisy companies to communicate with others. The habit of always being together and communicating only with each other at a certain moment can lead to a feeling of vacuum in the relationship, which will not be so easy to fix later.
I can change what annoys me in a partner
Almost everyone has the desire to change something in their partner from time to time, but it is not worth making any attempts to do so. Of course, you can talk about what you don't like or don't like, but do it very carefully, because there are things that are better not to say to a man, at least openly.
