Since childhood, a person is instilled with the rules of behavior. Rules about how to behave when visiting or in public places, cultural rules of behavior when communicating, etc., and most importantly, a person, even as an adult, hears from everywhere that you need to be responsible. It is necessary to take responsibility for life and actions. That is, so that nothing happens in life with a person, she herself is responsible for everything.
What is responsibility?
Before thinking about responsibility, you should understand what it is. Responsibility means the fact when a person consciously fulfills the requirements imposed on him. The requirements may be different, related to various activities (work, study, etc.), as well as to the fulfillment of duties (family, friendship, etc.).
Responsibility can be divided into personal and collective. Personal: when an individual has his own rules, attitudes, plans, goals, which he adheres to and strives for. In this case, the person himself determines how and for what he will be responsible. A word given to someone can also be attributed to personal responsibility.
There is also collective responsibility. It is expressed as a result of specific activity. For example, in business. Collective responsibility implies that each member of a group or team assumes certain obligations that he must fulfill. In this way, to achieve a result (profit, conclusion of a contract, etc.)
However, this does not mean that a person, observing the norms and rules of the collective, cannot have his own point of view. On the contrary, one's own opinion strengthens and develops the personality. If a person blindly follows the team, is guided only by its opinion and decisions, in the end, dependence on public opinion may lead to some degree of personality degradation.
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Unfortunately, there is often an irresponsible attitude towards everything that happens. Many people are afraid of responsibility. It is easier to shift everything to others, or to a coincidence of circumstances, or to some conditions (weather, magnetic storms, fate, etc.). A psychological defense mechanism called avoidance is triggered.
As a rule, such a protective mechanism works in those people who have not entered the quality of the personality of an adult. After all, only an adult person is able to reason, make bold decisions, do thoughtful actions - in a word, take responsibility for everything that happens in life not only for himself, but also for his loved ones.
There are two more types of attitude towards life or two personality qualities - this is a person's perception of what is happening in the style of a child. Such people avoid responsibility, act emotionally, it seems to them that everyone should fulfill their whims. They are dominated by the transfer of responsibility to others.
In the "father" type, a person always considers himself to be right. Only she knows how it should be. In such an attitude, the transfer of responsibility also dominates. Especially guilt. Everyone around is guilty. The child is poorly educated - the teachers are to blame, the agreement did not take place - the partner is to blame...
Thus, it is important for a person with the predominant personality qualities of a child or a father to learn to take responsibility for himself.
Two ways
There are two ways: planning and forecasting. In each area, it is important to plan your goals, time for activities and many other things. It also happens with responsibility. Before making a decision, it is important to make a plan for its implementation. How much time will it take and how can it be done, in case of learning acceptance of responsibility, faster. Then comes the prediction of results. It is important to build assumptions about what can come out of the decision made. After weighing all the pros and cons, draw conclusions and if all parameters are suitable, make a commitment.
Thus, from childhood, a person is taught various rules of behavior. Every person, whether a child or an adult, must learn to take responsibility. Sometimes it is very difficult. Basically, a mechanism of psychological protection called avoidance works. People with the characteristics of a child or a father are prone to most of the protective mechanism.
In order to learn to accept responsibility, it is important to use two methods: planning and forecasting.