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A 56-year-old British woman admitted that she had sex with more than 20 married men after cheating on her lover.
This is what she is about told The Sun.
Elizabeth did not expect that at her age her personal life would bring her pleasure. She first started having sex with married couples after her husband Patrick cheated on her with a work colleague. Elizabeth wanted to find out why he did this, and by talking to married men just like him who had cheated, she got the answer.
"He put our marriage on the path to destruction because he mistook their professional relationship for true love. When I was 27 years old, I met and fell in love with Patrick, whom, by coincidence, I met at work. We got married when I was 29 and by the time I was 32 we had two children, now 26 and 24. I thought our marriage was strong and was absolutely stunned 12 years later when Patrick admitted he had had a six-week affair with a colleague. It all ended when he couldn't take the guilt anymore and confessed to what he had done. He declared that he didn't love her, but he still loved me. We still had a good sex life, making love at least once a week," she shared.
However, the betrayal made the woman sick. She couldn't imagine them together, but she tortured herself with endless questions. According to Elizabeth, the lover could never properly explain why he did what he did.
"My first reaction was to end the marriage, but after a long conversation we agreed to stay together. I think his confession helped me try to trust him again, and he was very willing to go to counseling. But although we supposedly returned to "normal life" after about six months, I certainly could not forget," she continued.
One evening, fueled by a couple of glasses of wine, Elizabeth signed up to a married dating site because she wanted to talk to other men to understand their motivations for cheating. She thought it would help shed some light on what was going on in Patrick's mind and whether his claims that men who had sex with other women still loved their wives were really true.
“Looking back, a tiny part of me was looking for a revenge romance, and inevitably that's what happened. I met in the chat with a 49-year-old man named Simon, the owner of his own printing company. Two weeks later we met for drinks in a posh bar in central London, and not only did I feel an emotional connection, but I also found him extremely attractive physically. We talked and he explained that he cheated because he couldn't get the sex he wanted at home - his wife was very dispassionate and it was more comfortable than sexual. For Patrick and I, those reasons didn't work, our sex life was still great when he cheated, but it soon stopped mattering. At the end of the night we kissed like teenagers and the next week, after I told Patrick I was going out with girls, I had sex with Simon in the hotel. The biggest surprise? I didn't feel guilty - I felt elation," the British woman admitted.
Elizabeth continued seeing Simon for three months, but then stopped because she was afraid she was getting too attached to him. But she missed the thrill of meeting a new man, of feeling so wanted, and this excitement in her life was intoxicating. So she found a new lover. A few weeks later, the woman went further and asked every man she met why he cheated.
"The answers were quite similar: the wife became more like a roommate and they lacked a sense of attraction, or he felt that the children were pushing him out of the house. One man I met said he did it simply "because he could." I think that some really loved their wives sincerely and I was never exposed. A man invited me to the theater and we had sex in a private box. Another had an affair for 10 years before that, and although he loved his ex, he never imagined leaving his wife for her - he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. When I met a new lover, I felt strong and gradually realized that I enjoyed revenge, turning everything upside down. I am not proud of this," she said.
Although Elizabeth had no intention of telling Patrick, their marriage suffered. She invested her energy in children, work and lovers, in that order. There was little left for the man, and he became less attractive to her, being with him became mundane and boring.
"He didn't even know that he was competing with the excitement of new lovers, and it made me feel guilty. After two years and five lovers, I ended our marriage, although I never admitted the real reason, to my shame I told him that I could not survive his betrayals. Although he set us on a path of destruction, I admit that I made a much greater contribution. At first glance, I choose such men because it is about excitement and passion, but deep down it is also a form of self-defense. Patrick hurt me so much with his betrayal that I never wanted to feel that vulnerable again. Now I can't cause pain, because I don't want these men to leave their wives," the British woman continued.
Her first lover after the divorce finally gave Elizabeth the answer to why Patrick cheated, but it did not comfort her. He said that it is natural to feel a connection with someone with whom you were brought up at work: “Suddenly you have the same goals and objectives, it can easily be taken for something more. And then, when it's over, you come back down to earth and see that it wasn't "real," which leads to a confession. I have never fallen in love with my married husbands - I know that husbands rarely leave their wives. I also don't want a household, I like living alone and I enjoy having my own space to relax after work or hang out on the weekend. I also don't feel lonely, I have a very active social life and see my children and other family members regularly."
She realized that married men liked her desire to be independent and were grateful and considerate lovers because they valued her. On average, each of her novels lasts six months, although Elizabeth has been dating one for five years, but because of the distance they see each other only once every few months.
"We go to dinner, and then we make love. I found myself enjoying adventurous sex, park experiments, and very light BDSM. This is now my 20th husband and my current boyfriend's name is Chris - he works in finance and has been married for 30 years. In the four months that we have been dating, he has never once mentioned his wife - even before our meeting, he made it clear that this is not a topic he is ready to discuss, and that suits me," the woman admitted.
Sometimes she feels guilty in front of her wives, because she remembers her condition when Patrick confessed to his affair. But, according to her, men will always find a reason and a way to cheat if they are inclined to do so.
"If it wasn't me, it would have been someone else, and in my defense I will say that I am not interested in destroying marriages," Elizabeth concluded her story.
