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Jealousy can be difficult to recognize, especially when it hides behind a friend's smile. It often manifests itself in subtle signs of behavior that can easily go unnoticed if you don't pay attention to them. The HackSpirit portal talked about 8 invisible "bells" in people's behavior that may indicate that they are secretly jealous of you.
1) Your successes are belittled
If you share good news, such as a promotion or an exciting new relationship, such people, instead of sharing your joy, quickly find a way to diminish it.
2) They imitate your actions
Imitation is indeed the best form of flattery, but if your girlfriend or boyfriend starts imitating you to the point of embarrassment, it may be due to insecurity rather than admiration.
3) They excessively like to compete
Jealous friends often find it difficult to see you succeed in the areas they struggle with. Therefore, they can turn any situation into a competition, hoping to come out on top.
4) They rarely rejoice in your successes
If you notice that your friend is rarely happy about your achievements, this may be a sign of hidden jealousy. Such people may quickly change the subject of the conversation or only give you a cursory congratulations when you share good news. Or maybe they never bring up the topic of your successes in conversation, preferring to focus on their own achievements or other topics.
5) They disappear in a difficult moment
An insecure friend may secretly feel relieved or even pleased to see your struggles. As sad as it sounds, your struggles can help them feel better about their own insecurities.
6) They give mixed compliments
These are compliments that are accompanied by subtle undertones or hidden criticism, for example: "I'm surprised that you were entrusted with such a large project. Usually you can handle the smaller ones."
7) They gossip about you
If you find out that your friend is spreading rumors or sharing personal information behind your back, this is a clear sign of disrespect. But it can also be a symptom of jealousy. Perhaps such people are trying to tarnish your reputation or put themselves in a better light. This is their way of coping with feelings of jealousy.
8) They constantly criticize you
If constructive criticism is an integral part of a healthy friendship, then constant and unnecessary nagging is not. Jealous friends may point out your mistakes more often than your successes, criticize your choices, or belittle your ideas. This behavior is caused by the fact that they cannot accept the fact that everything is fine with you. Your success increases their self-doubt, which makes them look for ways to confuse you.