21 First of all, accept the fact that quarrels and disagreements in relationships are normal. Not only that, it can even be useful. They show that you want to solve problems and are putting effort into it. However, you should know the point where differences become destructive for both of you.
Arguments about life goals
In a strong relationship, both partners respect each other's goals, but they have a common idea of what they want together. What if your ambitions and goals no longer match? You question whether you can be with this person in the future, say in 10 years. Among some painful moments, the following can be listed: place of residence and work, number of children, religious (spiritual) and political beliefs, distribution of finances, lifestyle. No amount of positive thinking will help you if you spend another ten years with such a partner and then find out that it was all for naught.
Quarrels about intimacy
If your rapport stops outside the bedroom, it will soon stop inside the bedroom as well. Yes, partners often have different preferences, interests, and libido levels, but when you start fighting over these differences, that's a bad sign. Neither partner should feel coerced or blamed for what happens or doesn't happen in the bedroom. If you start finding fault with each other's preferences, you will no longer be physically compatible.
Arguments that one partner wants to change the other
Arguing because one of you needs to change under the influence of the other is counterproductive. Is your partner pressuring you to adjust? Or, on the contrary, do you want to change your partner to your liking? This does not bode well. When you started dating this person, you were attracted to them, so why aren't you satisfied with it now?
When you argue with the thought only to prove yourself right and take the upper hand
Conflicts in relationships should not be based on the desire to win at any cost. This is a joint work of a couple on a painful issue, not a sparring of a partner against a partner. If you want the last word to remain with you, your disagreements will turn into a display of pettiness and hostility. Yes, sometimes you will be the one to blame. In this situation, instead of being fiercely defensive, you should apologize and learn to avoid similar situations in the future.
Quarrels over money
Money can be a very explosive topic to talk about. If you are planning a really serious relationship, then you have to go from managing personal finances to managing joint finances. Sometimes the partner who earns more may demand control of the finances. Or the partner who earns less will feel insecure and, as a result, will begin to feel inferior. In other words, if you cannot resolve this issue, the relationship is doomed to failure.
When you fight because of the lack of "spark" in the relationship
Have your senses become weaker and dulled? Do you feel that passion and romance are gone, and the spark of passion has long died out? Awareness of this fact can confuse any couple. You want to feel something, and you want your partner to feel something, but you can't. Many people, frustrated by this situation, start cursing and blaming each other, desperately trying to get back the old emotions, but in fact, they only make the problem worse. If you're conflicted about a spark that's gone out, chances are it can't be rekindled. Unfortunately, some relationships really do end.
A fight for the sake of fighting
The way you fight can also indicate that your relationship is about to end. Here are some examples.
A big fight
Your conflicts become extremely unhealthy. You move away from the topic being discussed and start calling each other names, accusing each other of all the mortal sins and recalling the mistakes of the past.
The desire to find fault
This type of argument means that you are no longer focused on finding a solution to the problem. Instead, you just find fault with everything and you annoy each other.
Attracting attention
Some people deliberately provoke quarrels. Most often, this is an unconscious desire to attract attention or a way to achieve a change in routine relationships. If the two of you decided to use passive aggression and manipulation for this, then the prospects for your couple are quite bleak.