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Every marriage has its problems, but despite them, most couples prefer to keep their relationship. And this task is especially important if there are children in the family.
Praise your partner for the good things he does. And tell other people too
If we look only for the negative, we will never see anything other than that. But as soon as you start paying attention to the positive points, you can learn a lot about the best sides of your partner.
Try to focus on the good deeds of your loved one, and do not forget to praise him for them. Compliment him. Thank you for this deed. Silence your inner critic and start doing more enjoyable things. Then brag about his good deeds to your friends. Do not be afraid to praise both in private and in public.
If you are going to fight for your love, do it with love
Periodic quarrels happen to everyone. Conflicts are an integral part of any relationship, no matter how wonderful they are. We sometimes mistakenly believe that only a marriage in which there are no quarrels can be called happy. This is a false belief.
Strong can be called those relationships in which partners, even when they are in upset feelings, maintain respect for each other. And even after a serious quarrel, you make an effort to preserve the love that exists between you.
That is why it is so important not to cross the line where your actions and words will cause pain to your partner. People who are in happy, long-term marriages gradually acquire the habit of self-control, thus providing excellent support for the relationship.
Do something nice for your partner every day
Bring something that they say will "make your partner's day". It can be a short love note in which you thank him for everything he does for you. It might be his favorite dish for dinner. Or you can do the housework for your partner that he usually does himself.
You can also arrange a surprise date at his favorite place or even just let him choose the TV programs and movies that you will watch on TV tonight.
Make time for deep conversations
You need to try to find time for frank conversations, regardless of what they lead to. These are one of the most important moments of life together, which should be cherished.
You can talk for an hour or two, your conversation can be interrupted by unexpected circumstances - all this is not so important. The main thing is that you have made a decision to communicate regularly, and the time for this communication is sacred to you.
Calm down before you say something you'll regret later
When the brain feels threatened, it starts using words like a sword. When emotions run high, it often comes down to offensive words.
If the dispute starts to get out of control, it is better to take a time out. Such breaks during conflict situations should become your habit, which will allow you to avoid causing pain to each other.
In a relationship, the main thing is to maintain intimacy, not to be right. Do not allow yourself to trample on trust through carelessness.
