Many parents believe that raising and teaching children should be the responsibility of only the teacher. However, this is not entirely true. Here are some pretty gross mistakes that many parents make about teachers. This is what teachers want to tell parents.
Do not talk to the teacher
Many teachers would like parents to come and listen to the teacher talk about their child. However, this does not always happen. Instead, parents often discuss the teacher or think they know their child well and there is nothing new for the child to learn.
It must be recognized that the teacher sees his student in a completely different context than his family, so he may be able to tell about some of the child's weaknesses and strengths that parents may not notice at home.
Do not blame the teacher for your child's problems
Very often parents say that their children could not do what they are accused of. However, the reality is that sometimes it is very difficult to accept that your child is misbehaving and doing something wrong. You should not immediately attack the teacher and blame him for everything.
You must listen to the teacher and the child and only then draw conclusions. In addition, it will help to calmly discuss everything and solve the problem in the best way that will suit both parties.
Do not expect that the teacher will teach the child to go to the toilet or make him like vegetables
Children learn many skills at school, but parents also have many things to teach their children. Teachers say that they really don't like it when parents expect them to educate their children. They have so much work, so they won't do what their own children should do.
It is necessary to prepare the child for school at home and teach him basic skills. When sending a child to school, parents need to be absolutely sure that their children are independent and have basic self-care skills.
You should not threaten to sue the teacher
This is not very common in our country, however, some parents choose the worst option and literally threaten the teachers to sue them at any moment when they do not like something. According to the teachers, this upsets not only them, but also the students, therefore, it is necessary to adhere to certain frameworks of decency and try to behave as correctly as possible. Quarrels and quarrels can take a lot of energy, time and resources.
It is necessary to try to resolve conflict situations peacefully. In addition, you should not use lawsuits as manipulation. If there is a legitimate complaint about the improper actions of the teacher, it should be immediately submitted to the appropriate authorities.
Do not hide the problems that occur at home
Divorce, serious illness, future move or death of a family member, as well as many other important problems affecting the child, must be communicated to the teacher. What happens to children at home can have a big impact on their behavior and performance at school.
You need to talk to the teacher about your child. Naturally, he should not tell all the details, but knowing the main problem will help the teacher find an approach to the child in such a difficult period for her. Also, perhaps there will be a solution to the problem that has arisen.
Do not expect the teacher to pay for the children's school supplies
Teachers cannot pay for school supplies for their students because their profession is considered one of the lowest paid. Sometimes there are parents who are convinced that teachers earn enough money to pay for their children's school supplies, field trips, or meals.
Parents themselves must buy everything for their children and pay all the necessary expenses. If they cannot do this, then you need to contact the relevant authorities for financial assistance.
Do not surprise your child and the teacher with an unexpected visit during classes
Some parents may find it quite cute to visit their child if they are close to the school. However, there is a possibility that the teacher simply will not appreciate such a gesture and will not understand it.
The schedule at school is planned in advance, and an unexpected visit by parents will cause disruptions in such a schedule. In addition, the issue of security may be acute.
It is worth discussing with the teacher in advance the issue of help at school or visiting your child during the lunch break. In advance, you need to register with the school administrator or mark yourself at the security post, as well as strictly follow all the rules of the institution for visitors.
Do not add work to the teacher
Quite often, parents transfer their responsibilities to the teacher, even regarding the organization and holding of holidays for the class.
It is not necessary to add works to the teacher. You need to discuss all activities with him in advance and do everything possible to be useful.
Do not organize a GPA
Sometimes parents do not want to leave their children at classes, but at the same time, they are in no hurry to pick them up after the lessons, sometimes leaving the child for a few more hours. The teacher has a lot of work to do, he should not supervise the students after the lessons.
Parents of elementary school students should come to pick up their children 5-10 minutes before the end of classes. If the child attends additional classes or groups, it is best to be close to him at this time in order to pick him up immediately after the classes are over.
Do not criticize the teacher or the school on social media
A teacher's reputation is very important these days, and an angry or misinformed parent can erase years of hard work with just one social media post.
This often leads to a lot of comments and discussions from people who don't know what exactly happened. It is worth remembering that negative things attract a lot of attention, and no one looks at how much good the teacher did.
Do not criticize the teacher on social networks. It is best to talk to him personally and discuss all the existing issues.