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All of us have cheated at least once in our lives. Even simply hiding painful information is to some extent a lie. For the first time, children resort to deception at the age of about 3 years, and if the situation is not corrected, the little fantasist will turn into an experienced liar. The reasons for this behavior are different, and we will consider each one separately.
Why do children lie?
The first lie cannot be called deception in its purest form - preschoolers simply voice their fantasies, passing off what they wish for. My mother's favorite cup broke, immediately it sounds: "It's not me." The child does not want to be blamed, and in her head she has already created a scenario where the dishes are intact and intact on the shelf. With the help of a simple deception, the child seeks to correct the situation, because in reality he did not want to spoil anything. With age, lies become more sophisticated, but psychologists identify five main reasons and offer effective ways to combat children's lies.
Attention deficit
Around the age of 4, a child is able to come up with a pitiful story in order to become necessary and important to his parents for a few minutes. A small fall transforms into a serious injury - and mom and dad immediately rush to pity the baby.
Violent fantasy
The most harmful form of lying is when a child tries on the role of a schoolboy actor. Children imagine themselves as knights or princesses, talk about the feats they have accomplished and the beautiful rooms in the palace.
Hidden emotions
Children perfectly "read" information from the faces of adults and learn to adapt to a specific situation. Mom's gloomy eyebrows and dissatisfaction are a signal to correct behavior. If nothing can be changed, the child begins to lie. For some children, it is easier to choke on tasteless porridge than to upset a caring mother who "worked all morning, cooked and does not see thanks."
Fear of punishment
Having once met a bully or standing in a corner for half an hour, the child will never again confess to what he did. She instantly invents a story about a flying elephant that flew into the window, overturned a chair with a rumble and hurriedly retreated. And he will stand his ground like a partisan during an interrogation, imagining with horror the consequences of a sincere confession.
Filthy butt
"Tell the neighbor that I'm not at home," the child knows that you just don't want to talk to her. "Let's not tell mom that you ate candy." The baby is allergic, but the grandmother decided to pamper her grandson. Such trifles add up to a single picture called "Lies are the norm."
Children communicate openly and sincerely with their parents when there is respect and trust in the family. They will gladly ask for advice and will not lie if there is no insult and humiliation after the confession. If you behave with dignity and adhere to the principles of honesty, the child can only follow your example.
