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In our modern world, it is much easier to get acquainted than, for example, 30 years ago. It's easy to do now, even without leaving your home. You won't have to risk your position and work in general, you won't have to attend fun events or choose a partner only from your acquaintances. It is quite possible to meet your love on dating sites.
We decided to ask the analyst of the department "dating service” on a popular board in Ukraine, OBYAVA.ua published Olga Manevich how to prevent new online dating.
- Olga
- In order for communication to be established and further developed, it is necessary to approach communication with the opposite sex seriously. Not a single person, and especially a girl, does not like strange hints, rude attitude and rudeness.
Let's start a dialogue
A friendly greeting is the main key to success. First of all, it is necessary to say hello politely, so you will make it clear that you are interested in communication. If the girl does not respond, you do not need to write her messages with requests for feedback.
Well, if she is silent for a very long time or answers in one-syllable simple sentences, then she has no interest in you. You need to understand this, accept it and in no case get upset, because there will definitely be someone who will be truly interested in you.
What question to ask first after exchanging greetings? Here are a couple of options:
- Ask if she has a relationship? - Is it important for you to understand for what purposes a girl visits dating sites, maybe she just wants to make friends with someone while in a relationship?
- Find out if the girl now has time for socializing? - It often happens that the girl replied to you so as not to "lose" the message, but now she is completely busy with studies or work.
- Find out what mood the interlocutor is in now? - Any person may seem disinterested in communication, but maybe he is just sad? If it's really so, then support her, but don't go in with questions about what happened - you two will still have time to discuss it.
- Ask the girl a question that interests you. - There are a huge number of options: from a place of study (work) to a favorite dish. Do not hesitate, look for points of contact!
The most important thing is to show interest and maintain dialogue. It will be appropriate to tell, for example, a joke or interesting information about yourself.
Useful Tips
Virtual communication should not drag on for a long time, but it should not be rushed either. A week after meeting, you can clarify this question or tell the girl to let you know when she is ready to meet.
Practice shows that simple but the most important advice is often ignored. Please be polite or you may find yourself on the blacklist very soon.
The interlocutor does not answer you? So you should leave her alone and ask for happiness with someone else.
If it seems to you that you are talking to yourself, then nothing good will come of it either. Try to interest another girl!
Examples of dialogues
If the right words do not come to mind at all, then here are worthy examples for starting a conversation:
- Hello! My name is Maxim. Do you mind getting to know each other?
- Hi. How is your mood? Would you mind chatting?
- Good evening! I came across your profile and thought we might be able to become friends!
When you are just starting to meet, it will be important to show yourself as a gentleman. "You", as an appeal at the very beginning, really bribes many girls. At once it seems that a decent and polite person wrote.
On most dating sites, there are false tips, for example, "for the first message, come up with a witty phrase, she will definitely like it." Well, in most cases I don't like it. In our difficult time, filled with a variety of information, we want peace and consideration. It is better to choose something comfortable, so that they are not embarrassed later.
Did you manage to build a full-fledged dialogue and maintain communication? Excellent, then the matter remained small. After some time, invite the girl on a date and choose a cozy place for him.
